NEEDING CHANGE in the NEW YEAR

"Happy New Year's" something we will hear and say many times in the next few days to come. When it comes to the New Year, we all seem to wish to start something new, change something, or stop doing something. But why as humans do we seem to have a need to do this or better yet why pick a day to start that most people drink too much, eat far too much, smoke more than we did the day before, and we are far from being organized because we are still spinning from the holidays? Maybe it is because we are humans and we need to believe that with a new year, we too can have a new start to make up for what we did wrong the year before. Or is it because we feel guilty for what we did or did not do the year before? Or is it simply a tradition that we make a New Year's Resolution.

Never than less sometime today we all will make a resolution, some of us will say out loud, some of us will write it in our journals, and still there will be those of us that will clam up tighter than a clam in fear we will not complete it if we tell what our resolution is.

Thinking back to my own resolutions in the past and those of my family and friends it seems like it is really easy to tell what the resolutions will be about. There will be spend more time with the family, eat heather, work out more, stop smoking, cut back or quite drinking, get out of debt, learn something new, enjoy life more and the big one lose weight.

Once we make the resolution, it seems like we are setting our self up for depression and failing as 45% of all resolutions made on New Year's will be broken by the end of January and 80% will be broken by Valentine's day. Which shows one of two things, either we enjoy setting our self's up to fail or we make resolutions on a whim. This leads me to believe that most of us make them on a whim, because as humans we do not like feeling like we failed.

Before you make a resolution stop and ask you're self a few questions:
-What is the purpose of the resolution?
-Why is the change needed?
-Does the desire for change come from with inside of you or is it being associated by outside force?

How you answers these questions will determine whether or not a resolution will be successful, the wrong answers lead to failure and the right answer will help lead to success.

History shows that to make a change in one's life you must be willing to work at it. You must be willing to overcome set-backs, take it slow, and know that you need at least 60 days for something new to become a routine. After all what is a resolution, but a chance to change something at the start of the New Year?

Wishing you all a blessed New Year and success with your resolutions!