New Mommy Advice - Parenting Tips for Mom

This is special advice for mommies only. Daddies can read it but these tips are for mom. First of all, congratulations mom you have just taken on the most important job in your life! You are a mother, mom, and mommy. Here are some tips from one mom to another.

1. No matter what agreement you have with your husband, you WILL end up doing 90% of the baby care. You will be more in tune with your baby than dad, and dad will go to great lengths to forget to change a diaper, clothes, give vitamins, rock a crying baby, etc. (I have yet to figure out if it's selective memory, or a successful, intentional avoidance strategy). It's just male human nature. Don't get me wrong, most dads will do a great job with baby, you'll just be better at it.

2. Bonding is between the mommy and the baby.It is the quality time you spend with your little one doing whatever feels most natural to you and baby. Take time together to just relax.

3. Know that Postpartum Depression is a real thing. If you feel different, don't hesitate to call your doctor. It's not your fault. Get help. You don't have to feel like that.

4. There are networks of mommies across the country. They are all going through the same things you are. Get in touch with them and share your ups and downs. Baby Center has been a wonderful network for me. They have a bulletin board community where mommies chat daily. If you like using the computer, it's a great resource and outlet.

5. Meet other mommies and forge friendships. Set up play dates with other mommies. Join a playgroup. Getting together with others who are in the same boat as you will help you realize that you aren't alone.

6. "Grandmas don't always know best". You won't believe the amount of advice that will be given from both sides of the family. And when you say it's not safe to do any particular thing now like it was 30 years ago, you may get a snotty remark of, "Well, you didn't die from it did you and we did it with you all the time." Stick to what YOU feel is best and don't be discouraged from well-meaning grandparents. Car seats, foods, home remedies, smoking - these are just a few things that have changed since we were babies.

7. When people ask, "How does baby sleep?" don't feel like you have to tell them the truth. I only told friends and family the truth. It seems like everyone and their brother wanted to know and I always said, "Great!" This keeps people quiet and their opinions and unsolicited suggestions to themselves.

It is inevitable; there will surely be a time when you feel clueless. Just roll with it and don't sweat it.
The best advice I can give you is this: Be yourself. Trust your own judgment. Love your baby. Cherish each and every day.