Nick's Rules on Life Number One

I love you. A term or phrase that conveys the fact that you have or feel great positive emotion with another person. A phrase that can also have different levels of meaning from person to person. It can be difficult to figure out from person to person exactly how they feel about this topic. But more importantly it can be difficult to know what they mean if they say it- or a derivative of it, back to you. Hopefully this should help or at least give another insight.

Over the years I have noticed some things about saying I love you to a girl. One of these being that it is sometimes a bad idea to say it first. You see, if you are in love with a girl and you don't quite know if she is in love with you, don't take the chance of ruining something good. If you say I love you first to a girl, that can cause her- if she isn't in love with you- to feel it necessary out of grief or necessity to say it back, even if it isn't completely true. Then, if you are the type of guy to get over confident, you might begin to act in a way that seems clingy to her. Then she will feel trapped and begin to drift away, thus ruining something that could have been great.

Also remember, a girl saying "love you" and " I love you" in most cases can be something entirely different. Everyone has there own different way of communicating there emotions to others. If you say I love you to a girl, and from your opinion that means you are telling her that you are in love with her, and she just says " love you too" that could mean a variety of things. She could be saying that she is in love with you too, that she doesn't feel comfortable saying I love you back, or that she didn't take what you said as the more concise phrase " I'm in love with you". In short, know your partner well enough to distinguish the two.

On another note, know what it means to be in love with someone. don't assume you are in love just because you have never felt as strongly as you do for a certain person. Love isn't measured in the strength of feeling, but in what you are willing to do for that person. In other words. Don't think, Know.