Notes for Parents When Talking With Their Teens

Approaching a parent or parents can be rather intimidating. Tell them what you are feeling, whether it be anger, sadness, or scared, so they know what to expect. Just keep in mind that they most likely want to talk to you about these things but do not know how to approach you. I know that my parents were greatful to me for comming to them with my questions.

First and foremost I would let them know that what I was about to talk to them about would probably upset them so they need to be in a state of mind that will allow them to accept the information without loosing their cool. By doing this first you are giving them the opportunity to tell you if they are ready to hear what you have to say, or even if a different time would be better.

Think about what you would like to ask them before you approach them. If it is possible to do so, take the time to write it down before you discuss the matter with your parents. This way even if you do get upset or frustrated then you will still be able to keep on track. It may even be beneficial to your parents so they can read what you want to know, visual concepts are easier for some people to understand.

Never approach with more than one intimidating subject at a time. Not only will it get extremely upsetting but your parents may not be able to keep their cool with an overload of things that they did not even know that you were thinking about. Keep in mind that even if your parents do get upset the likely reason is that they do not know how to handle the information or may even be frustrated that they do not know how to answer the questions you are asking.

You may have to take a day or two to give them time to process what they would like to tell you and how they would like to approach the delivery of the information. Parents do not want give you bad advice and may not even know the answer to your questions themselves. All parents want you to think that they know all, but we all know that this is not true. So do not be discouraged! Put on a brave face and TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!! That is what they are there for.