Notice Your Body Language when Approaching a Girl

When you are walking up to a girl to begin flirting with her do you realize that she could of already sized you up? The reason for this is because only about 10% of our interaction with another comes from verbal communication. Our body language accounts for over 50% of our interaction and the rest is all in our voice - our intonation. So even if you have the slickest moves and best pick up lines a guy can have, if you don't have the body posture, appearance, movement, and overall confidence than you won't make the initial attraction with the lady. All of this before you even open your mouth to talk to her, mind you.

Let's start with your intonation - your voice. When you talk to a girl, do you sound nervous? What does nervousness sound like you may ask? Well, is the sound of your voice weak or even shaky; does your speech go in and out or your tone raise or lower? If the answer is yes than you are nervous and if you are nervous than you are not confident, and if you're not confident than what luck do you have to being successful for picking up a descent girl?

The art of seduction is expressed with actions - not words. It is not as much what you say as how you say it, both with the tone and steadiness of your voice and your actions. Your body communicates more than anything you are saying to pick up the lady at the party. Although she may not be consciously sizing you up and paying specific attention to how you walk, your posture, your outfit, how you move when you walk, the look in your eye, your hand placement, et centra the signals are still being sent. She may observe all of that at an unconscious level and then for some reason automatically think you are a jerk before you even reach her and open your mouth. If you want to get off on the right foot, so to speak, with her and not lose points while walking across the room then there are a few tips to keep in mind.

Make eye contact with the girl before you even set off on your long journey across the room to meet her. See if you even have a chance by seeing if she makes eye contact with you in return. If she does, continue to look into her eyes and smile and let her look away first. This shows that you are confident and secure with yourself by holding your gaze at her and your smile signifies that you are friendly. When you approach her you want to again regain that eye contact and hold it until you start talking. Then you can let your eyes gaze from one eye to another and the bridge of her nose and then allow yourself to look at the rest of her. People who are interested in others take in more than just the person's eyes. Think about it - before you go to kiss someone for the first time you gaze down at their lips, do you not? So take a look at her and she will see that you are interested in her. Just don't look her up and down in a cocky way with a smirk on your face.

When you are talking to her and if you are interested in her than you will naturally be facing her and paying attention to what she is saying. If the two of you are sitting then you should naturally turn your body to face hers including your legs, knees, or feet depending on how you are sitting. If she is interested in you then she will mirror your posture. So take notice of how she is standing or sitting in relation to you. If her body is facing towards you then that is a good sign. If her body is looking away or her eyes are glancing away then you are losing her quick. If you believe she is interested then you can tell some jokes or make some funny remarks and lightly touch her hand, arm, or shoulder for a split second a few times during your conversation. Then stop and see if she responds. If she is interested she will touch you in some way. Again, she is mirroring what you do and this shows interest.

You can't see yourself walking across a room to meet a girl or try to consciously pay attention to every single action your body is doing at any given time. If you try to do so you will probably make yourself trip and fall on your face. Instead, start off by being confident in yourself and run through a quick check on a few key parts. Take a deep breathe, smile, check your posture, make eye contact, if she is smiling back or facing your direction then trek over there to meet her. Remember to keep smiling and keep breathing. Confidence is key. If you have that than everything else should fall into place.