"Oh He Just My Baby's Father" - Where Women's Lib Stops

Now a days on television, you will hear some women say almost a million times "oh he just my baby father". It is surprising to me how everyone accepts that as the norm and doesn't even bother to flinch. As if him helping you create this precious bundle of joy is nothing. It is extremely hilarious how those same females before they got pregnant are the ones that want to play the field (politely saying) and say that its only fair because "Men have been doing it for centuries."

Those same women seem to think that what they got is gold, and once they tell any of those many men their pregnant that one of those guys would jump at the chance to take of her baby. I say that is the most ignorant thought to ever have. I believe that where the twisted view of Women's Lib stops. I have 3 main excuses that some women (bible calls them Jezebels) use on why they are right. I will tell you my views on those excuses and this topic altogether.

Excuse Three: " I wasn't a hoe when you had sex with me"
Honestly, who ever made this up was really trying with this one. I as a female hate to admit but yes you were a hoe when he slept with you. Especially if you gave it up to him the first day you see him. It doesn't matter how long you known him or if he was just a stranger.

If he didn't say you was his girl or you wasn't dating him for more than 3 months, I hate to break to you; you was his hoe at that night. I find it amusing how people in the audience or in general clap for that comment. Someone needs to break it down to me on how this comment is valid. You have to be honest with yourself and other on how you got pregnant. All men that deny their child are not bad and do have good reasons for not stepping up to the plate.

Excuse Two: "You had sex with me, you should take responsibility for the baby"
This excuse is the type that can be either goes for you or against you. Once again, yes he did have sex with you but if there wasn't a commitment between the two of you, as in a one night stand for example. I feel that he doesn't really have to especially the circumstances during the time you had sex. I feel that way because I have heard many women say that because men have played women for so many centuries, now it's our turn to get ours.

For that type of female, to you I say that if you could do all that, you can certainly take care of the baby on you own. You basically created this child on your own, especially when you made that decision to go out and have many different partners. Even if the guys you slept with don't know that there are others. You has a human being, know that there were many and should take the responsibility for your actions.

Excuse One: "It's my body and you can't tell me what to do with it"
Another one of those excuses that can go either way. Yes its true a man does not have the right to tell you what you to do with your body. When you get pregnant, it should be the most wonderful feeling in the world. In some cases it is not and that is truly sad. Anyway, that decision I believe is something that both the man and woman should make together.

Especially since everyone loves saying "I didn't make the baby by myself", how perfect it is that you would say that when you want money from the maybe "Baby Daddy" but not when it matters most. When you find out you are expecting, hearing the guy out would be the best interest in both you and your future child's life. No matter what anyone says raising a child is a two-parent job and not just one.

My reasons
I feel this way because it is weird how society has gone from its the woman's entire fault to its all the man's fault. This issue is where Woman's Lib stops, you want to be equal but when it comes to getting pregnant and having a child it becomes unbalanced. You can't say in one breath "I can do it by myself' and then next say "Oh where is my money'. You can't have it both ways and the one person who suffers is the child. That child spirit if meant to be on earth could have waited for another father in different situation. Every child deserves to be made from love and not from a one nighter or a relationship that wasn't going anywhere.

I will be that one female in a crowd of many, who will say I love my husband first and then my children (I bet a lot of mouths are in awe now). It's the truth how can I not love my husband more than my children without him they would not be here. I can't just say to my uterus, "grow a baby now". That is something out of a science fiction novel. A child deserves to know both sides of him or her.

In this day in age there is birth control pill, the ring, diaphragm and spermicides. There are no more excuses for you as a female to just blame the man alone for the predicament that arises. If you have health problems and you can not use any of these devices, then you should be more smart about whom you let go inside of you. As females and people we have responsibility to ourselves and the rest of society to be smart about how you play the field. If you the player, you can't have the game playing you. That is how so many females look on these talk shows, PLAYED!!!!!!!!!

Furthermore, I am not saying that it is right that men deny their children and act as if nothing happened. It's just common sense that they are not jumping up to take charge especially after a one-night stand, no matter how long you knew him. If you were in a relationship with him, that was a commitment. He even said that you were his girl, wifey or wife then yes you have all rights to get mad. That guy should be stepping up to the plate and taking care of his responsibilities.

It's only right, you weren't a "wham bam thank you miss' girl. Its sad to say that girls that go around being "promiscuous" make a bad name for so many out there being true to their man. It those same ones when the dirt hits the fan, they want to act all innocent. To play that "good girl" card and pass for being someone she wasn't. When that child grows older wants to blame the father for not being in his life.

If he told you that he didn't want to be father or didn't want to have a kid now, I strongly suggest listening to that. Then decide on what you can live with, a child who has no father, putting the child up for adoption or an abortion. Yes, I do know the child is not to blame. I also know that the child did not ask to be here. It is truly sad that children have to be put in the middle of an issue that happened long before they were born. You knew what was going on when you conceive the child and both parties should have came to a mature compromise on what will happen in the future. To not know who fathered your child is the worst thing a female could do.

I maybe old fashion in some ways and a bit harsh. This is the world in 2007, Men do bad things but so do Women. None is any better than the other is. If you have yourself out there like a man, then shouldn't you take what happen as one. You did your do and now you step up to the plate.