OK, Let's Start Over-Discriminatory or No
A Less Rambling Version of Yesterday's Article
M :"Do you have health issues?"
J: "Yes I do"
M: "Do You use alcohol or drugs?"
J: "No I do not, if you would like to drug test me I'd be happy to oblige"
M: "...small talk..."
J: "...small talk...."
M: "What health issues do you have?"
J: "Rheumatoid arthritis and some other conditions that affect my joints"
M: "...small talk..."
J; "...small talk..."
This is where the problem comes in:
M: "I saw you two weeks ago and you walk like a drunk"
J: "(stunned) No I do not drink, I have a limp"
M: "How long have you been sick?"
J: "four years now"
M: "No, because I saw you two years ago and you were pretty, looked good. Did not look nearly as bad as you do now"
I have decided that this was not only hurtful but discriminatory. Discriminatory because he judged me on how I looked due to my illnesses. Its not aabout judging me because I've aged due to the toll it has taken. It is what he said, that last line. I not only did not take the job, but this story has now spread like wild fire after speaking to my daughter. My family will no longer patronize this store after being customers there 20 years. There are many others doing the same due to the treatment I got there.
Published by Jennifer Bove
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43 Comments
Post a CommentHow thoughtless of him!
What a terrible thing to say!
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Jennifer you're too good for that place. I'm glad that your family and friends are no longer patronizing the store.
Thank you all for your kind words. I was pretty stung for a while, still a little bit, as I was already self concious. I'm not bringing any suit or anything, I feel for one I really don't have the strength, but mainly I feel just by calling attention to it, even if it showed one person (especially him!) how hurtful and degrading these remarks are, and even if I made one person change how they see people, like maybe they walk funny because they're ill, and never jump to conclusions then my hurt he gave me was worth it . I went through the same thing with my son when he had a hip problem, people are very quick to judge on appearances.
What an awful experience.
Attrocious behavior by this man. I quite agree that this is discrimination.
This is horrible; I hope he gets demoted and put in a position where he doesn't feel like he has to sit in judgment of people. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Aweful man!
condescending indeed, he should be fired, you don't speak to people like that! how rude!
Simply too rude and condescending.