Once a Cheater...Always A Cheater?

Is this statement true? Or does it really depend on the person? I mean, sure, we all have probably cheated at one point or another. Whether it involved sex or not. But should we be judged on our past? In general history repeats itself, historical behavior is an indicator of what is to come in the future. But in some cases it just depends on different factors like:

• The maturity of the person at the time

• Their remorse, if any

• How long ago it happened

• How many times it happened

• The person's attitude toward cheating now

I mean, if my past did not involve you, why are you holding it against me? Is that really fair? But what if your cheating was with your current partner, then is it ok for you to hold it against them? Anyone can mess up once, especially if they are on the young side, inexperienced, and/or naive. But an adult who knows right from wrong, well then you have to look into their mindset and character.

But really, I just think it depends on why the person cheated in the first place. Because there are so many different factors that can influence cheating like:

• Did your partner cheat because there was too much temptation or opportunity

• Was it because you were going through problems in your relationship

• Was it just for the thrill or moment

• Was it for the need for more excitement in the bedroom

• Or maybe love don't live there anymore, just comfort or security

Some cheating is easier to resolve than others. For instance, if your partner cheated on you when they went out for a girl's night or a guy's night. They cheated because there was too much opportunity and temptation. These are two of the factors that can be more easily resolved than others. Even if it is resolved by you two going out together or in groups together instead of separately. But if the cheating occurred because of something more genetic like: maybe your partner is a sex addict, or the level or attractiveness, or even worse, the desire to do more in the bedroom is not being driven (for example if your partner likes receiving oral and you don't like giving) that's a problem. These are factors that are hard to change. And these tend to be the reasons why people continually cheat or their partners. While I do believe change is possible, it's no walk in the park. It Aint Easy. It takes a lot of work and effort on both parties. And without a strong commitment to change or some type of counseling, a cheater will cheat again....