Online Dating Advice for Guys

Ok guys, it's your turn! Last time I called out the ladies and asked them gently not to lie about certain things online and now it's time to let you guys know what makes us "click"-- on your profile that is! In this day and age, it's never been easier or more confusing to jump into the world of online dating. Although there are many run of the mill type sites available, there are also some fairly high-tech ones and some niche ones. For instance, Romeomeetsjuliet.com allows you to meet singles in a virtual bar, use a web cam and instant message! This is so important for those skeptics who are afraid that who they see in a picture is not who will show up on the lunch date! Meanwhile a site like datehotmillionaires.com caters to wealthy dating, and those with higher incomes. In other words, there is something for everyone! Romeomeetsjuliet.com also offers personalized matchmaking, not based on a computer but based on the whole package. Check out several sites before you decide!

What I would like to do is focus on profile do's and don'ts! First, guys please do not post the famous photo with your ex chopped off at the point of her blonde locks. I am sure there are photos you took with your ex that make you look really good, but at this point, it makes the viewer feel as though you are either not over your ex, or that is it a very old photo, both of which are not exactly a turn-on for women. Women want to be special and are looking for that special guy! Having a picture posted with your ex in the picture is just wrong! Also, avoi posting pictures of you and your kids. Although you may be dad of the year, this is left for conversation later in the process. Posting a picture with your kids sends the message that you are all about your kids and may not have room in your life for a relationship. The only caveat to that is if you are on a site for single parents. If you don't have a decent picture, consider having one professionally taken. This can be a great investment and make you look your absolute best!

Second, don't use the profile as a forum to brag about all of your accomplishments! Okay, so you jumped out of an airplane and drive a Benz, what does that really say about who you are as a person? Women are more interested in whether or not you give to charity, like your mom, or love animals! I'm not saying don't list a few things you do well, but there is a difference between outright boasting and mentioning your hobbies to determine whether or not you might be compatible with someone. I have seen profiles that are at least two pages long, with lines like "I grew up in Alabama, my parents loved me, went to grade school etc, blah blah blah." Your profile should start out with something catchy like "Do you love old movies as much as I do?" Make it original and yours but if you are really that great of a catch, she will figure it out soon enough! Promote yourself in a way that makes her want to get to know you, not rattle off your material possessions!

Finally, I believe you should join more than one site, especially if you are in a smaller town or don't get out much. That way you are diversifying your profile and opening yourself up to more eligible singles.

Ok, so get out there and start meeting singles today! You've got all the tools, what are you waiting for?

Next time I will discuss fibbing on the online sites and how to know if that person is married... or worse!