Online Dating Worked for Me: Finding My Husband and Getting Married

Do you have trouble meeting people? Do you feel uncomfortable making the first move? Are you having trouble trying to find new places to meet people? Are you looking for someone that looks deeper into your personality than making judgments based on your appearance?

These were all reasons that I decided to give online dating a try. I was a busy college student that worked full time and I just didn't have the time to try to find my future mate in social situations. I tried dating a few coworkers with no success. Being a computer person, I thought that it was time to give online dating a try.

I signed up with Yahoo Personals. I created my profile of all my hobbies, what I liked and disliked, and what was important to me in finding my future husband. I didn't feel comfortable posting a picture of myself, so I didn't post a picture. I figured that, if and when I found someone that I was interested in, we could exchange pictures. This was new to me, and I wanted to remain a bit anonymous, which is why I didn't post a picture.

Originally I found that the guys that were responding seemed nice enough, but most of them either wanted to meet right away, or seemed to want to have conversations revolving around sex. I knew that I was looking for something more. A couple of men responded and seemed to be deeper than just talking about sex. One of them seemed very potential, but then turned out to be married! But a few months into my post, I met him. I met my future husband.

I didn't know he was my future husband, I just knew that we had so much in common that it was scary. I almost felt like I was talking to myself because we had so much in common. We kept talking for a few months, and then decided it was time to talk on the phone. We exchanged pictures of each other. We called each other, and our affection grew. Nothing changed by having phone conversations. We had so much in common, we knew that we had to meet. Since we were a few hours apart in distance, it took us awhile to get our schedules to mesh together before we were able to meet in person.

I will never forget how it felt when we met for the first time. There was a spark of chemistry. We hugged, he brought me a rose, and we had conversations that lasted for hours. Meeting in person seemed to round out our feelings for each other. From that moment forward we have not been apart. It's been almost 10 years now and we have a 1-year old baby girl. We feel so blessed to have met each other online.

Here are some reasons why you too should consider giving online dating a try:

Find Out If You Have Things in Common
Before you even decide to date someone, you can communicate with them by email or chat. By just communicating with someone, you can decide if that person really has anything in common with you. If they do, your conversations will flow naturally and after you communicate, you may want to meet them in person to see if you have the same fun together that you had by emailing and chatting with them.

Don't Feel Comfortable Meeting?
If you are a shy person, or you have trouble getting to know someone, meeting online gives you the confidence to build great communication with someone prior to meeting. Meeting someone for the first time is typically a time to be nervous, but by knowing someone by having prior conversations that first meeting can be more comfortable than uncomfortable.

Having Trouble Meeting New People?
If you are running out of places to meet new people, online dating could open a whole new world for you. Start out your search by looking for people in your area. If you don't find any potential, search for people that are a few miles from where you are living. Even if they live in surrounding areas, they may be worth meeting. By searching in your area and a few miles from where you live, you are casting your net further and finding people you wouldn't necessarily meet in everyday life.

Looking for More Than Just Physical Beauty?
Society places a lot of emphasis on physical beauty. Although we all know looks are important, it's so nice to be able to find someone that you can hold a good conversation with, and that you have things in common. By searching online, several different services allow you to fill out a personality profile, and hobby profile to find singles with similar likes and interests. Looks aren't everything, but personality is important.

Don't Have a Lot of Time?
Time is of the essence. A lot of people have busy lives and not a lot of time to look for that special someone. By dating online, you are using your time efficiently and are finding singles that you wouldn't have time to find. You are also meeting them in the convenience of your own home instead of having to go to your local bar and look for new singles. What's better than that?

Online dating has really evolved. There are several different online services that will help you find your future mate. Most of these services require membership or monthly fees, so it's important to do your homework and decide which service works for you. Here are a few dating sites to begin your search: Match, eHarmony, Lavalife, Plenty of Fish, Yahoo.