Orgasm Hype

Women are multi-orgasmic - unlike men who need to get it up after each orgasm and probably can't go beyond four anyway. Women can also transcend sex, unlike men.

A woman may be the hottest lover any man ever had, and then, just quit sex one fine day. This fine day usually comes when she becomes a mother. I know many women who have lost interest in sex after childbirth.

Affection for the lover-husband is replaced by affection for the child because at this crucial stage of her life, her priorities are bound to change.

Perhaps this is because of the monumental pain of childbirth itself and her often painful recovery thereafter. It is most natural for a woman in labour to shun the very sight of her husband. It is he who has done this to her.

Her indifference towards sex may also stem from the fact that she has now found someone to call her very own. Some she can love unconditionally for a change.

Whatever the cause, true liberation, in my opinion, is not burning the bra, wearing sexy clothes or having loads of lovers (although, when you're younger, you think this makes you liberated!). True liberation, honey, is freedom from sexual desire.

Have you ever thought of the amount of energy sex requires? Not just the gymnastics of it, but also in the anticipation, the planning and the anxiety of -"Will he get it over with fast? Or will I have to wait till he has his orgasm after I've had many already? Will he ask me to go down on him? I hate that sort of thing!"

Have you thought of how much time you spend thinking about the Man in your life? In the flush of romance, every woman has noticed how she eats, sleeps and lives her man. He intrudes upon her every thought and task. He's the first thing she thinks of when she wakes up in the morning, and the last thing she thinks of before she falls asleep - IF she can fall asleep at all!

But once you free yourself from all that, you get: improved concentration, energy to spend on yourself, your friends, your kids, your work, your hobbies. You can finally put your life into focus.

So don't worry about all that hype about the Big O. An orgasm takes up only a few moments in your vast life, and yet, you spend years thinking about it.

After all, your true gift to a man is not your sex, but your true self.

And here's a little secret: make him pine. Make him wait. Never allow him to think that you're available anytime and anywhere. He'll respect you for it and he'll get a bit more crazy about you.