Overcoming Negative Thoughts

There aren't many of us who can say we've come out of our childhood unscathed or have had fairytale relationships. We've all had some really bad things happen to us. Some worse than others. Too often though we play back those negative memories over and over again until they're a part of our entire mental makeup. Everything you do is guided by how you view your past. Think it's not true? If you aren't in a happy relationship, if your finances are beyond precarious, if your job totally sucks...this is a clear indication that your past is in the driver's seat!

Want more proof? Think of a dream you have. This could be going back to school, getting away from Mr./Ms. Wrong, or finally leaving that dead end job. What happens when you imagine this? Things pop up all over the place to stop you from moving forward! You can't even get past the thought process yet alone actually put any effort forth to create a better life. You feel afraid, unworthy, confused, stressed, maybe even anxious. You come up with a lot of excuses NOT to pursue happiness. That's your past controlling you. That's all of the negative, screwed up people you encountered who had a hand in programming your brain. All along you thought you were the one on the top deck steering your ship of life, only to discover-maybe only after having read this-that you've been down in the hold and had no idea where you were going!

Some of us are more aware of our negative thoughts than others. Right here, right now, refuse to dwell on them any more. All it serves is to bring your energy level down, and surround you with an aura that deflects anything good from coming into your life. Holding anger against someone or something in the past doesn't change things, it only serves to control you day after day.

Whenever a negative thought about the past comes up, replace it with a positive thought that is equally powerful. For instance, say you were abused as a child and a certain event pops into your mind. Instead of giving in to the memory, bring up a happy memory you have and recall it in as much detail as possible.

If you have very few happy memories, or find it hard to come up with something when anger or pain strike, make a list of some happier times when you're in a good mood and read it when you're feeling down. You could even write down future events that you hope to experience. If you were in a very bad relationship, write down what you require in your next relationship. (Be reasonable though because nobody's perfect!) Write down what your future mate will be like and some happy times you'd like to share with him/her.

This is also a great way to program your mind and energy field into attracting what you desire most. The past is gone, it's done and over. The only way it can have any effect on you now is if you let it. Those "bad memory" pathways have worn a groove in your mind, so it's much easier to recall them--whether we like it or not. Choose to create "positive memory" pathways and see the difference it makes in your mood, and in your life.