Pain is Pleasure? - a Submissive's Viewpoint on Pain Giving Sexual Pleasure

As BDSM becomes more mainstream people look on trying to understand how a man or woman can gain pleasure for submitting to another. Also some are perplexed by the need or want of the pain that can be given in a Dominant/submissive relationship. So ultimately can pain give you pleasure?

If you speak with psychologists they definitely say yes, because your pain and pleasure receptors are very close together so you can blur that line. However when speaking with a true submissive they don't talk in Freudian words they just know how they feel living the BDSM lifestyle so what are their thoughts?

I have spoke with both men and women submissives about their thoughts on pain. The thoughts seem to be categorized in this manner. There are submissives and slaves that enjoy the pain and always have, there are submissives that have been taught to enjoy and endure pain due to long hours of pleasure/pain giving from their Dominant, and there are also submissives and slaves that don't enjoy pain at all it is truly just a discipline used in their lifestyle.

For the submissives that have just naturally enjoyed pain for as long as they know it does not work in the manner of stubbing a toe and enjoying it. It is an art form in its own way, and a Dominant can usually "play" a submissive like an instrument giving sexual pleasure and then bringing in pain during this time making them blend into one piece. Of course some submissives don't need the foreplay per say and would just enjoy a good spanking from their Dominant because to them it make them happy. One submissive feels pleasure just because she feels secure in the pleasure and discipline scenario. Another just out and out gets turned on by the pain, is this wrong? I don't believe anyone's sexual preferences and desires are wrong as long as they are practiced safely, sanely, and consensually.

There are many submissives and slaves out there that do not like pain at all. And for that D/s couple it usually means that pain is very rare if ever experienced and if it is pain is only used as a tool for discipline. Why? Because it is affective and because although in a submissives mind pain is bad they want their boundaries set they want to be controlled this assists in that.

When it comes to sexual desires they are as varied as topping for your pizza, however just because I like pineapple doesn't mean I am evil or dark just different. BDSM and the submissives who enjoy pain along with their pleasure is the same thing. Although it is still considered taboo, one might be surprised how closely related pain is to pleasure and how quickly it can become addictive.