Parent / Principle Conflict Management

How to Handle Conflict with Your Child's Principle - Professionals in the educational system are looked up as having a passion for what they do- TEACH. Teachers have a touch job but so do those that run schools - PRINCIPLES. Often times when a matter is out of a teacher's hand, it is brought to the Principle's attention. Principles have a structure and method on which they run their school. Just like there aren't two parents who have the same parenting skills, there aren't two principles that have the same means of running their school. There are situations where as a parent, you are dealing with the teacher but in others you are also dealing with the principle. Here 5 tips to improve your communication and relationship with your child's principle:

Common Ground- Always remember that you and the principle have one thing in common- you are both highly interested in your child's welfare and educational advancements. When there are times where you don't see eye to eye, don't look at the principle as the bad guy. Look at him or her as a member of your team and really use him or her as a tool to help get your child on track

Blame- Don't take the suggestions and feedback the principle provides as an attach to your parenthood but rather as a third party looking into the fish bowl and really observing and keep an open mind. Also don't blame the school/curriculum for why your child is acting a certain way. This is an up hill battle because this is not solely the principle's dictation but rather a collaborative effort from the board of education, teachers and principles.

Home Away from Home- Your child spends more time at school then he or she does at home so it is very important to understand the child can and will behave differently outside of the home environment. School is like a second family since the child spends so much time there. Having a healthy and positive relationship with your child's educators can enhance your child's development and growth.

If you don't agree with what is being said, ask for examples and real situations that lead the educator to form the statements being presented. The school is your inside track to your child

Be Involved- the home environment and school environment should parallel do this by showing initiative and letting the principle know you are implanting procedures and measures at home and are willing to go the extra mile for your child. Ask questions and stick to your guns!

Park Emotions - In order to get the most out of the time with your child's principle, don't be emotional. Nobody wants to hear something less then positive about their child but becoming emotional does not permit you to listen to what is being said. This also makes it difficult for the education to seek your support in tackling the problem at hand.