Parental Alienation: Four Facts
Parental Alienation Does More Harm Than Many May Realize
Parental Alienation: Four Facts-Number One: Parental alienation is "brainwashing" - According to Fact.on.ca, parental alienation is when one parent (typically the one with primary custody) makes an attempt to sever the bond between children of a divorced couple, and the target parent. Over the years, as the concept of joint custody has become popular, so has the incidence of cases of parental alienation.
Parental Alienation: Four Facts-Number Two: Parental alienation is child abuse. - According to Dr Glenn F. Cartwright, children desire, by nature, to love both parents. The alienating procreator, in their attempts to either "eliminate" the target progenitor, or to recruit the children onto their "side," cause unnecessary pain and confusion to the subject child. Regardless of whether the alienating parent is the mother or father, and regardless of which parent "wins," it's always the child who loses.
Parental Alienation: Four Facts-Number Three: Parental alienation is beginning to be recognized as damaging by the psychiatric community. - At the website Stopparentalalienation.org, new divorcees can learn about the damaging effects of an alienating parent on children from a host of legitimate certified experts on the subject of child psychology. Experts are even beginning to recognize patterns that, many experts believe, may be an expression of a condition now known as Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS).
PAS is identified by such symptoms as A) an irrational and unjustified hatred of the target parent; B) otherwise normal child behavior until the target parent is mentioned; and C) claims against the target which, are based on memories preceding the birth of the child. When actual abuse or neglect is present in the case history, a determination of PAS is not applied.
Forcing a child to have to choose between the approval of their Mom or Dad, over the other, has such dire consequences for the children later in life that, it deserves to be recognized as a jail-able offense. Any other form of child abuse is treated as such.
Parental Alienation: Four Facts-Number Four: Re-marriage can sometimes trigger parental alienation - Again, according to Fact.on.ca, whenever a parent re-marries, it's sometimes the case that, one parent might try to "make room" for the step-parent by attempting to "turn" the child against the target parent. Competition between the ex-spouse and the new step-parent might also be a cause of the issue. Mothers wishing to "move on" and fathers wanting to get away from the past may also commit acts of alienation. Mostly, these problems seem to center around one basic emotion, and that emotion is fear.
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25 Comments
Post a CommentIt's so wrong when people use their children to hurt their exes, thereby hurting the kids. Well done.
Thanks for getting this information out into the public.
Whether child abuse or domestic violence is taken seriously depends on the state you live in. Virginia has since changed the laws; however, in a case not too old a separated father broke in and raped his wife (living in her own place) and she was not able to prosecute for rape because they were still marriage. The children also saw the act and he was given joint custody. He told his coworker about his rape plans before it occured premeditated. Now I wonder how those children feel? At that time, in that state, apparently children seeing a father break in and rape their mother was not abuse. He did not serve any jail time. On another note, Florida is a very bad state when it comes to child abuse or domestic violence, they don't do much unless someone is seriously injured, raped, or killed. In my opinion, too little to late. Kids are killed all the time there after the father gets joint custody when he wanted sole and deserved none. God bless.
Great article and overview. Parental alienation affects countless parents, children and extended family members every year. Keep up the good work and please continue raising the visibility of this issue.
Sincerely,
mike jeffries
Author, A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation
I hope this helps you somehow Joel.
Excellent article. So many parents force the kids to endure a war between the exes.
My father always bad-mouthed my mother after their divorce, and I asked her why she didn't bad-mouth my father, and she said because it wasn't right and explained lots of things to me. After realizing my father was being unfair doing this, I lost much respect for him, even as a child. Excellent article. People should always put their children first.
I consider it abuse when one parent purposely and maliciously tries to turn a child away from the other parent simply out of revenge. That's not love.
Nice job! Kids don't need to be manipulated into choosing sides. They need to be free to love both parents.
This sort of thing definitely needs to be pushed into the awareness spotlight, especially with how many divorces there are. Parental alienation is selfish on the parent's part and they are truly not considering the child's well-being, but rather, their own emotional desires.