Parental Alienation: Stop Fighting Over the Kids

In today's society divorce is a common word and no one frowns on it anymore. What happens after the separation is not often talked about until it is too late. When a divorce turns into a high conflict situation the kids are held at large and there is no ransom going to bring them back into your life. For many parents the term parental alienation is painful and a reminder of the absence of their children in their everyday lives.

Parental Alienation is any behavior by a parent, a child's mother or father, whether conscious or unconscious, that could create alienation in the relationship between a child and the other parent. Parental alienation can be mild and temporary or extreme and ongoing. Most researchers believe that any alienation of a child against (the child's) other parent is harmful to the child and to the target parent. Extreme, obsessive, and ongoing parental alienation can cause terrible psychological damage to children extending well into adulthood. Parental Alienation focuses on the alienating parent's behavior as opposed to the alienated parent's and alienated children's conditions.

Parental Alienation can be described as the modern holocaust for children and unexpecting parents. A parent does not see it coming and in a short amount of time your existence in your child's life is diminished by the other parent and the court system. The system fails in the best interest of the child in this legal process. The children are emotionally abused forced to believe lies about a parent whom they love. The parent in shock and at a loss to understand what is going on before their very own eyes.

I can understand this sadness and pain all too well. As a child this was the life I led after my parents' divorce. The children pay a heavy toll and heartache will be the path that the alienating parent puts before them. Children are the true victims in these circumstances. The behaviors forced on these children will cause depression, confusion, anger, trust issues and many more patterns that will follow them into their adult life.

If you can't believe this can happen to you do a search on parental alienation and find out for yourself.

There are many more complex factors regarding divorce that are not covered when you sign that dotted line. Parents don't have to love each other to be good parents. When a divorce becomes a high conflict situation the children see what happens. When a divorce happens you don't divorce your children.

A good resource for parents starting the process of Divorce is: Stop Fighting Over the Kids by Mike Mastracci. http://www.stopfightingoverhekids.com