Parenting the Kids & Teens of Today

You have undoubtedly noticed today's kids are not the same breed WE were growing up. Called the Children of Now, Star Kids, or the Indigo Generation (to name a few of the labels they've been given), our children and teens are remarkably gifted and are posing new challenges in parenting. For generations, child-rearing and schooling modalities have been largely authoritative, non- questioning, hierarchical, "do as I say, not as I do" mentality; however, these inflexible and dis-empowering methods simply will not work with the generation of today. A new paradigm is required.

Understanding their mission and their life purpose is crucial in learning how to best parent these kids, teens and young adults. Once you know where they are coming from and their motivation for behaving the way they do, then parenting --and even everyday life-- is smoother and more appreciated! As soon as you discover their specific needs, for example, once you learn what your child is allergic to, and more importantly "why" your child chose said allergies, you'll be more motivated and compassionate about completing the extra work necessary in finding and preparing the right foods for your child so no allergic reactions occur. Let's take a look at the major three: Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow.

Indigo Energy

While we are currently witnessing a tidal wave of New Children populating the earth (and a tsunami on the horizon...), the majority of Indigos actually started arriving in our world in the late 1970's. Their drive was strong, focused and they could not be swayed. The kids came in gallantly to change the world by stomping down untruths and showing the world what was wrong with society. Their goal was firm and it took great courage, stamina and resilience to meet their agenda. In order to move such mountains overcoming many odds, their personalities were intense, determined, and focused... often mis-perceived for being cold, headstrong, and self-centered. Interpersonally, they were hard to get along with, at times, as they pushed all your buttons just to "see what would happen!" Parents, teachers, and psychologists alike did not know how to "control" these kids, and as a result, initiated an amazing number of ADD (ADHD) and Manic-Depressive mis-diagnoses over the past 20 years. By the mid-80s, this generation often abused drugs and alcohol as a means of coping, and in a few years, were soon to re-popularize the 1968 term "work-aholic."

Again, not knowing how to "tame" the Indigos intense drive instead sought medication to force conformity; however, these tactics only further fueled the fiery Indigos and many acted out aggressively. Those who did succumb to the pressure of society to be "normal" found themselves depressed, anxious, and rebellious to an extreme. Bi-polar and borderline personality disorders were handed out like candy when the medical field couldn't pinpoint what was "wrong" with these kids -- who are now adults approaching 40 years old.

Fortunately, a look at America today will show us how well the Indigos fulfilled their goal. Schools have embraced more open styles of teaching because of their parents' demands for something different. In fact, Maria Montessori and Rudolf Steiner are both considered two of our earliest Indigos --WAY ahead of their time! Another effect of the Indigo energy is the shift away from mass-produced means and toward embracing a more natural lifestyle. Naturopathic medicines, organic foods, and a return to simpler times are becoming the norm. "Congrats Indigos, for accomplishing your goal ...and thanks for your relentless hard work in the changing of our world!"

However the passionate and unwavering drive (some might call it stubbornness or bull-headedness) of the Indigo energy must now be shifted and transmuted into Lighter goals. In liberal countries where Indigos have been successful, they no longer need to be so firm, harsh and rigid. This behavior and attitude was necessary to protect yourself and persevere while doing the intense work of exposing... of petitioning... of lobbying... of changing the systems and institutions which no longer served us. Due to the intensity of this work and the massive movement of energy needed to make these shifts, it is imperative all Indigos (in such progressive cultures) recognize this heavier energy is no longer needed: Release it and let it go! These Indigos are now encouraged and guided to transform into the Lighter vibration we see in the Crystal generation as the next phase in fulfilling their Soul Mission.

Crystal Energy

Crystal children started arriving in the 1990s, and are a stark contrast to the go-go-go energy of the Indigos. They instead surprised us with their Buddha- like way of being: Deliberate, still, and slow-to-warm-up taking in everything around them with ease and grace. The Indigos forced us to examine our culture and ourselves by directly exposing and breaking the self-serving systems influencing the masses, while the Crystals on the other hand, soothed us all with their gentle yet mighty presence.

Their approach and methods are much more subtle ... One look at a Crystal child and you know you are in the presence of the Divine. They take in everything around them before making any determination or judgment. They are, in fact, judgment free -- they accept all and imbue it with love. They are very discriminating and self-protective in their interaction with others: Only allowing people or situations which serve their highest good to get close to them.

One of their goals is to help infuse the New Earth's energetic grid. As the LightWorkers are raising the vibration of the planet, the Crystal's deep love and non-judgments allow Mother Earth to breathe a sigh of relief as these little angels dance about with pure radiance and love. They are holding the space of non-judgment awaiting the rest of us to emotionally "get there" in our personal lives. Their love of our Earth is apparent in all they do: From school recycling programs to youth organized charities created to aid other kids in need... they truly are divine beings bringing us back into the right relationship with our planet, with the animals, and with our plant friends.

They too show us deeper ways we are out of integrity by displaying physical opposition to situations not working for them. Autism, Asperger's and food allergies are just a few ways they're showing us how to re-calibrate and fine tune our energy toward better harmony with the Earth and with all things on the Earth. Because of their plight, we have all begun to re-examine our relationship with foods, our reliance on vaccines, and our blind faith in the medical system. The Crystals really work wonders at the energetic levels of our Being and continue to show us new ways to live in perfect balance with our planet.

Rainbow Energy

The brilliant Rainbow energy began arriving next and is still hard to grasp-- for our Rainbow babies are still so very young. Arriving in the mid 2000's, Rainbows have taken the best and strongest traits from their energetic predecessors. They beautifully combine the passion and intense drive of the Indigos with the serene presence and big wise eyes of the Crystals ... and to say they are full of energy is an understatement! These little ones seem to act as wind-up toys which don't stop until the moon rises high in the sky. Bedtime, eating, and general "reeling in" of their energy is all for naught as the Rainbows really know what best serves their bodies.

Pickiness and even stubbornness are actually highly tuned forms of self protection. One example of eating when they want, what they want, and how much they want ...may easily be perceived as a temper tantrum. When in fact, it's simply their way of asserting they truly know what fuels them best and when their body needs to eat. Typical parenting techniques are completely lost on this generation. "Trust" instead is implicit in all they do. Trust them to know THEY know what's best for their bodies -- it's just our responsibility to have healthy fresh foods available for them when they're "ready to eat." To be honest, especially as a parent, it was most comforting and re-assuring to be told by her Guides our daughter has "big Angels" and is very closely protected -- as ALL children are! With this in mind, Rainbows will prove to be most impervious to the ailments of the Crystals.

Just as the Indigos are literally natural walking "lie detectors," this trait also rings strong and clear in the Rainbows. If you're not being honest, they'll tell you (because they read your energy rather than listen to the words coming out of your mouth). If they don't like something, you will know about it. If they don't feel safe, they will demand total attention from you to the exclusion of everything else. If your home environment is cluttered, messy or dirty or if your decisions (even moral decisions) are questionable, they will challenge those principles and your belief system directly through both their actions and words.

One focus of the Rainbows is to help us back into integrity... obviously why they keep challenging our beliefs, and the things we assume to be true. Given they are spiritually-awakened beings, they will show us how to transition into the same fully-awakened state of consciousness. Their connection to their bodies, to the spiritual worlds, and to their unwavering faith will serve as a model for us all. The Indigos set ablaze the inauthenticity of our systems literally creating the space for our REclaimed ability to Stand in our Light. The Crystals reminded us of the right relationship, balance and sustainability with our planet; While the Rainbows will remind us how to right the relationship, balance and sustainability within ourselves.

These energetic shifts are a natural part of our journey on Earth: Nothing to fear ...only to embrace our evolution. This is as natural, expected and anticipated as Halley's Comet every 76 years! Of course, these shifts include Mother Earth meeting her own needs to right herself (earthquakes, volcanoes, tsunamis, hurricanes etc). She is Mother to us all and through these courageous kids, teens and young adults, we will be shown how to navigate these very changing times. Follow their lead for it is time to let love lead the way once again! Be child-like in your heart and turn to your children's pure faith when your own is tested. They are a gift not only to us parents but to our planet and Her people as We continue on our Sojourn... "All aboard who's coming aboard!"

Co-authored:

Andye Murphy
Gavin Harrill, MA
www.PeeKSgroup.com

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