Parenting: Not as Easy as I Thought
Parenting Turned Out to Be Way Different Than I Expected it to Be
Secondly, I took it as a given that everyone of my children would be just like me.they would have my personality, my likes and dislikes, have a perfectionist driven way about them and be ultra sensitive.
Thirdly, my husband would be a carbon copy of my father. He would immediately fix things without being told, stay in his room, not getting in my way and not be out spoken. I know a lot of girls marry someone just like their dad, but i seem to be an exception to this rule. Maybe it was because I carried this unreal expectation.
The fourth fallacy I had was the unreal view of the way things really are. I did and still love romance novels, but I think these stories may add to where this believe stems for a lot of women. You just sail through in the "Happily Ever After" mode.
My perspectives changed, is the fifth thing I take note of. As we grow older we usually gain wisdom. I state usually, for there are probably exceptions. The biggest thing for as far as the fifth one goes has to do with my faith and becoming a Christian. It changed my outlook on things and showed me i could not stay on the same path with my children which I had previously been in agreement with.
The sixth thing I have discovered-and this may fit with some of the other five above, but with a different twist. Not only do parents and children change, but the circumstances change around us. WE have another child, someone gets ill, the trials of life press upon us and things cannot be done in the little molded way we planned on.
And finally the seventh one is I planned and thought I knew it all and that I had control. I thought I was completely prepared for what was coming. Was I ever Wrong!
Published by Karen Dunleavy
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6 Comments
Post a Comment:) You sound a lot like me! I couldn't and can't believe the things that have changed in my life.
Yes, life definitely throws us unexpected curve balls, doesn't it? It's never the "dream world" that we wish it was. :) Good article! I love writing on parenting.
very honest writing...good article!
Great article, only it seems unfinished. I would have liked you to elaborate more on how things aren't the same as they were for your parents, how your husband is different from your father, how your children aren't the same as you. I totally agree with everything you are saying, only I would like to hear more!
I mean... IN this world is change.
How true, the only permanent thing is this world is change. Very well said.