Parenting - Patience

Parenting needs patience, calmness, serenity, lot of love and dedication to up bring your child. In this modern world we as a parent need to give valuable and useful time with our children. Instead we give them materialistic pleasure than real time, which they deserve from us.

Children is full of inquisitiveness, want to know more about its environment, wants to explore world around, want to do things which are creative, and also which are less creative. As a child they want to know why, where, how, when of every subject which may be some times bit awkward to answer as a parent. So you require lots of patience in up bringing your child. One day my six year daughter wanted to know how child is born. Why only mother gives baby birth? Is marriage required for birth of a child? Why she can't shave her face?

It is seen that children tend to act according to external stimuli and acquires things which they don't possess. My six years old daughter one day brought a wild plant and started to plant in one of the pots. I then asked her why she wants to have a wild plant in our house. She said Dad, since one of our neighbors has brought an exotic plant, she too wanted to have one. Matter is very simple and natural instinct in any human being, to possess the item which we don't have. But you should not discourage the child, since it will have two impacts. One you are sowing a seed of negative attitude secondly discouraging the child from being environment friendly.

Children learn the traits of the life from nature, from environment that too in playful manner. They bring clay, pieces of wood, stone etc and want to carve or mould a figure out of it. But they don't know how, and they pester you to help them. You might be busy in kitchen or other house hold work and might be irritated, but remember refusing or stopping them from trying new ventures will give negative impact. Instead help them, which will result in boosting their imagination and creative talents. This is the way every child learns in his or her life. Always give them free hand but be careful to see that they don't harm or hurt themselves in the process.

Every child is found of animals, birds and might insist in having one at home as a pet. Kindly encourage them but if you have space constraint or other problems make them understand politely.

Children by nature would like to learn everything at the same time, so encourage them. But don't stop them instead sit with them and find out which hobby or outdoor game is best for them. This is the stage every child learns different things, skills and tries to adopt different situation which will help them to learn and educate for the future.

Children have a habit of inculcating the habits or the hobbies from their parents. Girls try to copy their mother, want to help their mothers in kitchen or do by themselves. Encourage them and in your presence teach different skills, which in time helpful for their future. They might spoil once or twice but don't discourage them instead tell them they are doing fine. They would like to dress, makeup like you. This is quite natural and we as parents should always give them courage so that it will be a learning process for them.

Similarly boys like to imitate their fathers, they would like to shave, go to market behave like their fathers. This is instinct and natural, so instead help them to develop as better human beings.

Children love to play games pretending as teacher or the parents. This is quite normal and is signs of development, which will later on help them to be matured human beings. Children while playing teacher teacher and spoil the walls or bed sheets by writing on the walls or other places. This is very common in every child, instead discouraging them just make them understand politely not to spoil the walls and bed sheets. Instead use their rough books or blackboard which you have provided them for these works.

Children at the tender age of 5 to 10 yrs usually had a bad habit of eating. Only eating junk foods or just eating tit bits or snacks just filling their belly instead eating their regular meals. We usually have a habit of either forcing the child to eat by spoon feeding or just to satisfy them for not behaving irrational accepting their demands. But this is the stage to encourage them for eating themselves and also a regular diet just by having patience & a little time.

Childhood fascination sometimes leads to their career or vice versa. So a parent should guide in the habits, the hobbies, the character.

Therefore children learn every thing very fast which the environment provides them. We as parent should not discourage them by but give them word of encouragement and help them to see their life in a positive note. In raising a child every parent should have lot of patience.