Parenting Tips for the Holidays

Family holiday gatherings are rarely like the ones you see in the movies. Well, maybe the Chevy Chase holiday movies. Unfortunately, that is what many of us will see -- dysfunctional families hyped up on sugar, struggling to connect for some holiday "magic." Children and parents can have very different ideas about what the holiday agenda looks like. This year, fight the frustration and try these parenting tips for the holidays.

Scaling Back

In this economy, many families have to scale back the holiday spending. However, children, especially children who still believe in Santa Claus, will have lists, often long lists of gifts they want to receive. Remember Mom and Dad, if you plan to scale back Christmas, you need to inform the troops. Call a family meeting before the holidays arrive and make children aware that "Santa" is on a budget this year. Chances are, your children won't notice much difference but your honesty may ease your own mind. Keep the important traditions in place like lighting the holiday menorah or serving a Christmas roast. Don't be afraid to trim the holiday budget but assure kids that everything is okay.

Guilt Free Holiday

As a frustrated friend of mine once said, "Parenting during the holidays is tough because there is so much of it." While kids are on "winter break" they are cooped up indoors with their caregivers. During this time, you will hear many familiar statements like "I'm bored" or "Can I have...?" Stick to your budget and refused to be "guilted" into buying more than you can afford. Kids may poke out their lip, have a fit or continue to ask but stick to your guns. There is nothing wrong with encouraging kids to be imaginative and to play independently. Turn off the television if the requests don't stop after a warning. During the holiday season advertisers bombard our children with the latest toys and junk that they really don't need.

Spirit of Giving

Teach your children about the giving side of the holidays. Parenting tips for the holidays should include a trip to a homeless shelter, serving hot lunches to the hungry or visiting the homebound. Buy a few bags of candy canes and take kids on a trip through your neighborhood. Visit neighbors and give your candy cane gifts. Get your kids involved in something that means giving to others. This valuable lesson isn't just good for parents and kids but the rest of your community.