Parents: Control Your Temper at Home with Your Child

Stephanie Modkins
Do you find yourself always yelling at your son or daughter? Want to change? Control your temper at home with your child by managing your emotions before they get to high. You can accomplish this goal in several ways. Just:

Walk away. Do a 360-degree turn and go into another room or space. While there, regain your composure. Remember, you are the adult and you can control your reactions to your child's misbehavior. You don't have to let him push your buttons if you don't want to.

Breathe deeply. As each area of your lung is filled and then depleted, let go of your frustrations. Calm down. Then move forward to speak or exact a punishment. What you do next will represent your true intentions, not merely anger.

Think for a sec. Control your temper at home with your child by remembering how you acted during your youth. Did you always mind your parents? Was your mouth a little salty? Be honest. Then, respond to your child's behavior with compassion and authority.

Call a friend. Call someone who's a good listener and an excellent parent. Vent and ask for advice. Admit you're tempted to lose control and let your temper direct your actions toward your child. Then, let this person enlighten you to a better path and use what your friend says to appropriately approach your young one.

Go to the gym. Exercise away some of your irritation. Physical activity raises your endorphins; the chemicals in your brain that make you feel good. After you let them go to work, you can come home, shower and face your child like a reasonable adult.

Avoid triggers. Control your temper at home with your child by avoiding them. For example, if alcohol turns you into an angry maniac with your son or daughter, drink only non-alcoholic beverages. Don't set yourself up for failure. Figure out what's fueling your anger and douse the fire.

Stay diligent.
Take charge of your behavior and practice not losing your control. Do this continually until you are consistent in your change. Understand this process could take a while - weeks - months - or years. Yet, nothing is impossible and the end results will make you happy and a better parent.

Use these seven suggestions and learn how to control your temper at home with your child. You can be the kind of parent that responds to parenting by maintaining your composure. Also, after you child realizes he can't manipulate your emotions, he'll be less likely to disobey what you say.

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Published by Stephanie Modkins

Stephanie M. is a freelance writer who lives in the northwest. Her main goal is to write in a way that entertains, educates or uplifts readers.  View profile

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  • Lyn Lomasi10/6/2010

    Great advice! :)

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