Parents and Friendships

Being a parent is one of the most rewarding aspects of life, but it can also be one of the loneliest times. New parents realize that their childless friends have different interests and more flexible schedules. They also realize those friends with children have calendars full of swim, soccer, cheerleading, karate, and tee ball. So, maintaining friendships and making new ones have been an interesting time for parents. Here are some things to consider about your friendship needs as a parent.

Guiltless By Association

It's natural to want to be around people with the same interests and goals. It's the same for parents and their kids. When parents are together, they share stories about their kids, but they also share ideas, tips and knowledge gained. When parents are with childless friends, they gain perspective and a sense of identity separate from their children. The two worlds don't have to be in conflict. Each type of friend is important for you, as a parent, to have balance in your life.

Good Ship Lollipop

It's good to have a friend, who is in the same boat as you are. A friend with children understands why you anxious over feedings, the right fabric softener, or the correct Little Einstein's toy. This friend, whether working or stay at home mom or dad, spends time or has spent time worrying about the same things. They can help you find reputable babysitters and help you pick out the best learning toys. When you have to skip an event because of a sick kid or emergency, they understand.

No Kids Allowed

Before you had your kids, you had a different life. Those friends remember you and want you spend time with you. These are the friends, who make sure you get out to see a movie, go shopping or make time for a pedicure. These are the friends who your refuge from diaper changing, formula measuring and preschool socials. With these friendships, you are able to relax and not cater to anyone else's needs but your own.

Wise Guru

Wisdom comes from surviving childbearing and reclaiming your life after kids. It always helps to have a friend, who is in the later or ending stages of childrearing.. Your wise older parent can offer insight on discipline, on educational struggles and on how to let go. This friend as times is your own parent, aunts, grandparents or trusted neighbors. This friend gives you hope that you can do it.

Parenting is not something that is learned from books, it is something that comes from sharing with others. Friendships can help you be a better parent and make sure you maintain an identity separate from your children.