Parents Who Spank Could Be Criminals
Do Parents Need More Governmental Regulation?
This citizen has a huge problem with this legislation not because I support spanking, and certainly not because I support child abuse. I believe that to abuse a child is not only an act against the child but an act against society. However there is some debate about whether or not spanking is child abuse.
Some people would say that one should never ever hit a child. Some would say that there is biblical precedence in Proverbs that refers to a Rod. Most Doctors and Psychiatrists would say that corporal punishment only sends the message that inflicting pain is the only way to assert control. Every parent has their own technique and every child is a unique individual.
As for me, I parent with the two handed approach, one hand is for loving, hugging, encouraging, and supporting, while the other hand is for guiding, directing, spanking, and correcting. I always remind myself to use both hands equally, and I honestly believe that to use either hand excessively would constitute abuse.
This is the technique that works for me.
I am the step-father of twin twenty year old girls and the father of one ten year old boy. And the parenting techniques for each of them is as unique as the child is. I am however proud of all of them and believe that the love and mutual respect in our family is the greatest testament of all in regards to the child raising skills that my wife and I have developed through trial and error in raising our children.
In closing I believe that this is one of those issues that can not and should not be regulated by more laws. Until the Government can tell me the 100% correct way to raise my children and get perfect results they have no business telling me what is the 100% wrong way in raising my children.
There are plenty of laws on the books to protect children from abuse and I guarantee you that you will not find a more staunch child advocate than this AC writer, however ,my children are my business and until you have reason to suspect child abuse in my home, and the evidence to charge me under the existing child abuse laws than kindly 'butt out'.
I suspect that Republican James Marzilli Jr. couldn't care less about the actual welfare of your children but appreciates all of the press that this controversial bill will generate. Politically speaking this is a win win situation for him because who among us will step forward and say "It's my kid and I should be able to beat him if I want to."
This is no doubt how intrusive and abusive legislation gets passed into law.
This writer, citizen, and voice of the American people can only suggest that all parents, grandparents, and future parents, contact this Massachusetts Senator and challenge him to put this issue to a vote in his State, the ballot is how we should make our voices heard and to rubber stamp a bill into law that effectively removes an age old parenting tool from the parents tool box and makes Criminals out of parents that make the less popular choice in correcting their children is a far bigger crime than little Brian getting his hand slapped when he tries to stick a fork into an electrical socket or runs into the street for the 10th time.
These are Your Children and Your Country so do something about it.
Published by swaney3
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16 Comments
Post a CommentSpanking works on some kids, it doesn't work on others. I don't like spanking my kids, and thankfully neither of them have needed it much. I certainly don't consider it abusive. Letting children grow up to be inconsiderate little brats who think the world revolves around their every whim is abusive. Not teaching respect for others is abusive. I don't do it to show that I'm bigger or better, but to impress upon my children that there are sometimes unpleasant consequences for their actions. I'd rather teach it to them at a young age than have them end up in the penal system.
I do not think the government has a right to tell us how to raise or children. Seems to me that kids now days are alot more out of control then they used to be before everyone got on the no spanking bandwagon.
Funny, my child knows pain is not an option, and yet he is generally a very well-behaved child--which is saying a lot for a two year-old....
... a good reason. When I was a child, my behavior was always at its worst when I knew that pain was not an option. I will never obey any of man's laws that tell me to hurt my children.
Going too far is a problem. Never never never administer discipline when angry. Make a kid wait in their room as long as you need. Make 'em clean the bathroom. Just cool off and wait. It only builds the suspense anyway. One of the worst times I ever got it, I only got three licks. That was nothing. The bad part was having to stay in my room for hours looking at that prominently displayed belt.
Being calm is good for the parent too. Kids do things just to make you mad sometimes. We all know we've done it. As a parent, I have an obligation to help my child feel the consequence of their own bad choices. I want them to know that I feel fine. They will not transfer that mess to me. They will have no control over my emotions. I like to keep the boundaries clear. Freedom and happiness when you make good choices... total discontent when you make bad choices.
Finally, never ever use physical discipline for accidents or what could not be understood. Willful disobedience is always a good re
Touch a hot oven after you've been told not to & you'll know better. A child requires the parent to be the heat via measures that range from words to pain. This is the controlled environment. Otherwise, that kid is going to encounter some real heat in a world that is uncontrolled in its wrath.
Great article! Sorry, but anyone who thinks hitting a child is okay, is uninformed of the effect it has on a child. It also solidifies that the parent is a hypocrite, because they will say to this child one day it's not okay to hit your sister, friend, mommy, etc. Where is the logic, that there are "Special" reasons to hit someone, such as mommy or daddy correcting you. Parents don't want to believe that spanking (a glorified word for hitting), is just a parents way of saying to a child, I don't know how else to get through to you. Please ALWAYS remember, not one human being on the face of the earth can 100% say they would never accidentally go too far when spanking thier children. Everyone has a breaking point, and unfortunately, NO ONE knows when that is.
I can look back on times when I caught a woop'n & laugh now. Most of all I'm thankful. Burnin' buns kept me from a life of crime. The proper application of pain when it only needs to be small to seem great is, at times, the proper tool to point a child in the right direction. Wait too long and nothing works. Not pain, not consequence, nothing at all will work if the child is not taught early. That being said, some kids require far less than others. My daughter is nothing like I was. I probability got a 10th of what I even deserved. Still, I like push-ups and other cool stuff like repetitive heavy lifting. A kid can remember that longer because they feel it longer & it only makes them more healthy.
i never belived in spanking until my son was about 5 yrs old. that is when putting in time out, sending to the room, and corner time became a joke. My son has ran out in front of a car before and i can personally tell you what happens when you dont get out of the way in time or the car doesnt see you. as my brother was killed by a driver that just didnt see him. If i wasnt allowed to spank my child, i am afraid that my son would have ran out in a street a secound time but this time he wouldnt make it. if you look into the children that shoot up there schools i would say that they probly have never been spanked. the government cant be allowed to make stepford familys out of us.
I think it should be left to the parent's discretion. Nicely written article.