Penalties for Not Paying Child Support: Are They Harsh Enough?
Most parental parents don't even realize it but when the other parent isn't paying child support and neither parent has taken any legal action and the child remains equal to both parents... the non custodial parent still has equal rights to the child. You have to go to court and take legal action in order for the rights to be limited or taken away from the non custodial parent.
This is insain. Why should a parent who doesn't see thier child and doesn't pay a dime for that childs needs have any say in the childs life? It is morally wrong. It takes two people to have a child and two to take care of it. I don't say this because I have an ex partner who doesn't do anything for his child and never has but because I am a single mother fighting tooth and nail to provide for my child and give him the education and future he deserves while the "father" is out at bars, and working under the table and having no worries in the world.
Usually, licenses are pulled from the non custodial parent and sometimes court orders to pay are in place. Does this really take an effect? I don't think so. They find rides from other people or drive carefully with no license. It is almost like they are getting away with it and no actions are in place for this. How can one parent now a days pay for a child alone and put them through college or even get them their first car? It is so expensive to just take care of yourself let alone a child as well.
I think that if more parents spoke up and took some kind of legal actions on this and actually fought for different rights that this could turn in our childrens favor. It is just not right to have a child and then walk away. This alone has caused so many emotional and mental problems in children. It is a proven fact that children really suffer from this.
I feel that both parents should equally have to pay for that child and spend time with that child until the child is a grown adult and makes their owns choices. Raising your children should never been an option! If one or both parents cannot or will not equally support that child in all aspects then their should be a penalty for it. They should suffer just as that child does. No money, no clothes, no role model, no support, lack of education, etc. Anything that a child looses out on or lacks due to this immature behavior, that parent or parents should loose as well.
I cannot believe that a person can have a child and walk away like it never happened and never be punished for it. I cannot believe that it is even allowed. Taking care of your responsibility, your child, should be a law. I think it is sad to have to label it as a "law" but there are just way to many people that can just walk away and pretend it never happened.
People get thrown in jail for years on a daily basis for doing or selling drugs, murder, fraud etc. But walk away scott free from abandoning thier child. I don't think the punishment for this is great enough and that is why it is so common and happening more and more everyday. Because they can, its ok to do this, you don't get in trouble for this, it's a common thing. I say its rediculous and insain that this is allowed. Not only is it hard on the parent taking responsibility but it's hard on the child growing up and sometimes even after their grown.
We need to fight to make this happen. We need to stand up for our children and what is right. This needs to be illegal just as the drugs, and driving with no seat belt, and fraud, and purgery, etc. Leaving your child is to in my eyes and it should be in everyone elses as well. Until it is, one or both of the parents will continue to walk away everyday.
Statistics show that 75% of children who grew up with only one parent, have children who only grow up with one parent. We need to put a stop to it now or noone ever will.
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41 Comments
Post a CommentChild support can be a great crime by itself...here are two examples. Say a man sleeps with a woman, he uses a condom, but the condom breaks, he asks her to use the morning after pill, she wont, so she gets pregnant..he asks her to have an abortion, she wont. Now he owes child support? Seems like he was doing everything in his power not to have a baby(short of not having sex), and his rights have been taken away from him from a decision that was not his. Or the other case is a man marries a woman, some where down the line she decides she doesnt want to be with him, raids the bank account, takes the children, wins almost automatically in the court system. Now maybe this man has the pleasure if hes lucky of seeing his children twice a month, unless she decides she wants to move far away, in which case he has been stripped of his children, his earning and much of his savings. Both of these cases are extreme, but the show just how bad the child support system for men.
POINT OF FACT: This child support thing has always been wrong. It is said the the custodial parent (usually the mother and sometimes not the best choice) does not have to pay child support because that one is putting a roof over the chil's head , food in the child's mouth , and clothes on the child's back
Let me just clarify in most Child Support Cases the Woman gets pregnant in under 5 years. There is no way in under 5 years you can honestly get to know someone. Common sense tells you that men love sex and are meant to reproduce. It's the womans responsibility to pick out a suitable man for her child. I have seen in the past 10 years that all women are going for is "The bad boy scum" instead of the nice, responsible men. Then they complain how their "Ex" or Baby Daddys are so horrible. Everyone knows that the majority of men are Immature and irresponsible. But to blame them for being horny is just stupid. Women need to wake up and get themselves under control. In the child support cases that are closest to me the women REFUSE the dad to see the child but then DEMAND payments. This is the true crime that needs to stop. I personally wouldn't pay it, it's the child that loses in the end.
I appreciate your article, however it is flawed in many ways. What I mean is, the laws currently in place are the most drastic and strong-armed of all countries. The Department of Child Support Services is collecting millions and added up charges in the millions. It is too complex to explain here just understand that non-custodial parents are paying interest fees on their own children. If your ex is hiding under-ground it is a big mistake, and he will soon have to surface. The debt will not go away. You may not get the money you need now, but you will get it. By going under-ground, your ex is not paying into his unemployment, social security, and avoiding taxes. He will pay for it. Read my blog and check out my ebook, it will explain so much more for you.
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I see quite a few posts against the ex here. I fail to see where the hostility is going to help anything. It seems to me that there are measures you "men" can take to prevent becomming a "father" if that was not what you wanted. AND-- we are not all just sitting around waiting for a child support payment or welfare check. Some of us work every day and then have to come home and be mom AND dad to our kids because we ended up getting involved with some coward who thinks only of himself. If you are a sexually active male then birth control is your responsibility also. GET WITH THE PROGRAM AND QUIT BLAMING IT ALL ON THE WOMAN !!! There are options out there for you as well as for us.
Remember, when you are old and gray regretting deserting your child you have no one to blame but yourself. If you are so immature that you can never be a father then go see a doctor and get a vasectomy.
So yea there is always two sides to a story. When it comes to childsupport it can become bias because one party wants the viewer to fell sorry for them. However the most important thing you said in this article was :it take two".So in the other party defense i think you are smart enough when you sleep with that person you knew what you were getting yourself involve in. There are plenty of options in preventing pregnancy such pills, condoms, or at last resort abortion. So my personal opinion is both sides of child support should not complain because they both know the consequences of sex and before sleeping with someone you should know them well enough and plain stuff properly. I understand life can be unexpected but if you dont feel your ready to take care a child you can get a abortion. If you are religious and its not ethical for you then your religion should of taught you safe sex or absence. Whatever the case to complain your ex is at the bar and does not pay, i think before y
hi im in court tomorrow for not paying csa for my 2 kids does anyone know the sentences they can give or should i say punishments ? thanks for your time
Like what was stated in the article....doesn't pay a dime for that childs needs have any say in the childs life?...why should a woman that DOESN'T work and contribute her own money have a say in her child's life? I don't care if she has custody. If she can't afford to help raise the kid, maybe she shouldn't have it. I hate all free loading women. There is no reason, once the child reaches school age, that they cannot work and help out. Gee, the fathers are never good enough, unless the mother dies, then its perfectly fine for a man to take his child and work full time...so the whole system is wrong in every way shape and form.
...'This is insain. Why should a parent who doesn't see thier child and doesn't pay a dime for that childs needs have any say in the childs life? It is morally wrong. It takes two people to have a child and two to take care of it...' I agree, in part. Even women, especially women Who sit on their fat backsides, never work and live of taxpayers and child support should have their children taken away. THese women are a drain on society, bad influences on their children. All we need is one generation of freeloading women to teach her next generation children how to freeload. Women who do not work to help raise their children do not deserve them. I gree with you.
up Harley gear (which I know is not cheap). I don't want to put him in the poor house. I don't want to rob him. I want him to be happy and have his fun like I am able to do (and this is WITHOUT HIS SUPPORT MONEY!) but I do want him to help support her financially. Period. Many women are vindictive and I get that, but not all of us are. In the end, what my daughter will see is what matters. She will see a mother who saved and scrimped for her needs and a father who didn't help much at all and who rarely made any effort to see her except his designated weekends.