People Need to Mind There Own Business

Ever feel like people are always judging you when they need to take a look into their own lives and fix the problems that exist there? Ever find yourself telling them to mind their own business? Often, a critical person will seek out and find every little thing that is wrong about you and feel obligated to let you in on their findings. Are they truly concerned with your well being? Perhaps they see something you do not and want to assist you along the way. Or maybe they are just too dang nosy and need to mind their own business.

What is this wasted energy that people have where they actually find the time to criticize and ridicule others, meanwhile their own life isn't a bowl of ice-cream? I have observed this fascinating phenomenon amongst people whom cannot mind their own business and have noticed a common denominator. People who don't mind their own business have misery within. Sure some people are just naïve and obnoxious in their relentless antagonizing demeanor, but for most-there is a serious emptiness that is within the criticizer and they feel a need to degrade others in order to release themselves from their own sulking. Many expressions of past have made references to such acts by people of this caliber like; "don't throw stones if you live in a glass house." Even in religious scriptures there is a reference to this type of behavior; 7:53-8:11-"he that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her."The point here is that everyone has faults and there is a fine line in helping someone get through their indiscretions and chastising them for it. It's easier said than done for people to help each other rather than hurt, because some people might not even be aware that they are simply being a pain in the rear end versus being helpful. The rule of thumb in "If you can't say something nice, then say nothing at all" has been around for generations and there's a reason why. Someone going through hardships does not need to be reminded of what they are doing wrong by someone inconsiderate and thoughtless, which also leads to another famous expression; "If you are not part of the solution, then you are surely a part of the problem."

There are people out there that do have your best interest at heart and we would want them around us. These type of people however are easily noticed, as their gestures illustrate more of a concern than a discerning and they manifest this through show & proving. Think about the person that raises concern when they notice another person in distress. They may notice that they haven't come to work nor called and they would immediately realize that something is wrong because the person in question never acts in such a manner. Or think about that instinctive nature that's within us that let's us know a loved one is in trouble and that we should suddenly check-up on them. Many lives have been saved like this and this type of caring gesture is what distinguishes true caring people from impostors. Most criticizers are a part of the problem and their so called solution really isn't a solution at all, but instead a medium for them to simply degrade your integrity to anyone who may lend an ear. The audience for such persons is key, for if there is no one who will entertain their gossip, there would be no motivation for them to constantly come down on others. This also seems to be more than a life lesson of being kind to others, as it is more of a cycle that someone with little regard for others will fall prey to. Some people learn from their own mistakes, while others that are oblivious to fact will remain a prisoner to it. The cycle in that sense will never die out, but does that mean that there is no hope? Perhaps there isn't any hope, at least for this type of behavior to cease or we will all then live in a Utopian society, but instead there may be tools and methods by which to use and follow to decrease the ill effects of people who simply cannot mind their own business.