Personality by Order of Birth

Alike but Different

Lee  Davis
The middle girl told mom, "Everywhere I go, someone tells me I look like my big sister." In a family of three girls, there is jealously, rivalry and drama around the corner. The two younger are clones of the first girl. Thank heavens the oldest is gorgeous, but most similarities among the three stop at their great looks.

The family is in tune with nature and its environmentally constructive enhancements. The older girls understand "living green concepts" and love projects based on green doctrine. The baby does not care. All love crafts and seasonal projects. Mom and Dad are metropolitan types and girls, too. Family gatherings are delightful, and any excuse to have one is suitable.

First-born children are more than likely to become leaders and express responsibility and leadership skills in early childhood. The oldest child is usually a perfectionist. With two younger sisters, it is obvious that the oldest sets the rules. From the middle girl, this meets with sibling resistance of Biblical proportions. The older child continues to ignore all resistance and continues with the baby who merrily plays along with the game. .

The middle daughter feels outside the circle looking into the fun. Insisting on attention grabber devices, she distances herself from involvement. Look for the middle child to display "notice me" gimmicks. Secretive and less interactive at home, the middle child feels more comfortable in a group with freedom to share thoughts. Spend time with all your children but especially some one-on-one with the middle child. Allow them to make some family choices.

The little one will always be the baby. She is Mom and Dad's baby and her sisters' baby. She will expect most people to hop when she says jump. Even in early years, she is bossy and lazy. The last child is the "baby of the family" and enjoys the role for long periods. Surprisingly, they retain the nickname "Baby" into adulthood. This one gets away with everything, and the older are quick to point fingers.

Over half the presidents are first born and the media profession has many first-born children among its famous list. If the first-born are the leaders, the middle children are the entrepreneurs. The baby of the family will always be the baby of the family. Apply rules for the youngest, and do not give in. The older two are watching. Update the picture album.

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Sources:

Personal Experiences of the Author, First Born

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2002/06/10/earlyshow/living/parenting/main511694.shtml

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Published by Lee Davis

South Carolina Lady, Living in FL, Careers: Hospitality, Real Estate, Business,  View profile

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  • Abby Willow10/18/2010

    I am the oldest and oddly only a perfectionist with a few things. Definitely take-charge tho, but only if I care about the situation. Otherwise, I'm pretty mellow for a typical first-born.

  • Charles Johnson2/1/2010

    Good Job! Hugz CJ

  • Michelle M. Guilbeau-Sheppard12/24/2009

    So fun to read this story and connect it to our personal lives. I am the oldest of 5 so this was really interesting to me! Well done!

  • Steven West11/4/2009

    Wonderfully written. I fall in the middle. I can definitely relate.

  • Sofya Blinder11/2/2009

    Wow. I'm an only child. Thanks for your perspective!

  • Jennifer Bove10/30/2009

    good read, almost like my three;)

  • Jane Vee10/30/2009

    Great read and how true!

  • jerseynana10/29/2009

    Excellent Lee, will pass on to my so who has three girls, I am sure he can relate!

  • Roz Zurko10/29/2009

    really done well!

  • Jenny Heart10/29/2009

    Well done! Loved it!

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