Phrases to Avoid Saying to the Person You Love: Because I See You More...

I have heard this being said before and quite frankly I think that it is a pretty ridiculous thing to say to someone due to how it could be misinterpreted so easily.

Let's say for instance you are dating someone and you see each other every single day. You find your significant other leaving comments to other people on Myspace or Facebook. Maybe they are leaving picture comments like, "I like this picture" or, "Wow." And then when you ask them, "Why don't you ever leave comments to me," they say, "Because I see you all the time. I don't need to tell you on there, I tell you in person."

Or perhaps your friend, family members, or significant other, though they spend time with you, never really plan things with you. You may sit together and watch TV or pick a movie off the shelf once in a while, but they never say, "Next Friday, let's go see this movie." Instead they do it with other people they hardly see.

And when you go, "Why don't you plan going to the theater with me?"

They go, "Because I see you more, we can go whenever." You know this is not true, because you haven't gone to a movie with them in months, so the very comment they just made was irrelevant.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Has anyone ever said this to someone before? I have been on the receiving end of this, and I do not like it one bit. My reply to this is, "We see each other more because we love each other, so we shouldn't be doing, less for each other, but more."

However on the same note, this comment doesn't really mean you are loved less. I just thing the phrase itself sounds bad.

If you say to someone, "It's because I see you more"

...or anything along those lines...stop! Even though you may obviously like that person a lot, or even love them, and that is why you are spending more time with each other, those words can really give a mixed message.

Perhaps instead you could say something like:

"I thought that saying that in person would mean more to you instead of leaving you online messages."

"I like to cuddle with you when we watch movies at home. We can't do that as much in the theater, but if you want, let's plan a date sometime."

Maybe saying these things to you are bogus and not your style. But the real thing I am trying to get at, is telling someone the only reason why you aren't doing something nice for them is because you see them a lot, will make them wonder if you want to see them much at all. It gives that mixed image of, "Does that mean if I see you less, you will do those nice things for me?"

And perhaps that is really what is meant, and that too should be made clearer.

If someone tells you, "It's because I see you more"

Ask them why they may be saying that. Is it because they need their space? Is it because they feel comfortable with you, and don't feel like they have to plan things with you or go the extra mile because things are stable enough to them to where those things are no longer needed?

Be honest with yourself in what it is you really need, and talk about it. And try to find the true meaning behind those words. For all you know, they could need their own space or maybe they are more comfortable with you.

I think this phrase can leave a lot of misinterpretation for others and even leave others feeling bad. "I don't do this for you because I see you a lot, but I don't see him much so I will do this for him." This is not going to make the receiver very happy to hear. You may find the person seeing you less because of it. After all, wasn't the reason for not doing something nice was because, "I see you more?"

If that is truly not the reason, then stop before the one you leave ends up seeing you less.