Playing the Waiting Game

The more time I get to spend on this Earth the more I realize. I get to see a great deal of good things, but at the same time I have to look at a lot of things that aren't that great. I've had the displeasure of seeing a few of my friends hurt because of the significant other of the opposite sex that has been put in their lives. As most of you know, I've never exactly had much success with the ladies and for the longest time I have ben struggling with that. I keep on hearing the same questions and comments in my head:

"Whats wrong with me?"

"Why can't I get that?"

"What did they do for God that they got something awesome and I'm stuck alone?"

and to a more dramatic extent....

"I guess I'm just going to be alone for forever"

I don't know when this stopped being a place where I cpild make a couple of bucks and when this started to be a platform for me to dish out advice and help myself at the same time, but I've got advice for you and myself when I get down on myself like that.

You have to play the waiting game.

I know some of you are saying "Screw the waiting game!!!! Lets play hungry, hungry hippos!!!" but there is some good things that can happen while having a patient heart.

Worrying about things is basically telling God you don't think he's going to hook you up with anything or that He can't take care of you. For those christian readers, you all know thats a false statement. The plans for us are waaay more complicated and waaaaay more perfect then we will ever realize. The times that you are suffering in this dispair of being without "the one" should be a time of joy. These are the times that you are being made stronger and learning more about yourself and the world. These are the times that you are being shaped perfectly for that special person to come into your life and make everything all good.

The great thing about life is that most of us are only a 1/4 of the way there. We haven't even hit our mid life crisis. We can't be having a quarter life crisis. I don't care what John Mayer says about it.

The thing is kids.... is that we just need to relax and accept the crap that we are wading through right now. It's like the schooling we have gone through:

We have to go and sit there and learn a bunch of stuff that seems useless and it seems like its just a waste of time and money, like most of us feel about the relationships that went wrong in our lives, but they arent. We have to go to school to learn the neccessary skills that will help us in the workplace once we get out. All these crappy relationships are like the same thing. Just like there is in school and the workplace, there are the kids who are lucky and find the job they want early and dont even need to go to classes for it.

For the rest of us, we have to show up to class everyday and get our lesson. The way I see it is that you can't make time go any faster when things are bad and you cant make time go any slower when times are good. So you just have to make the best of everything while you're there. That's what life is about. Putting up with the crappy school to get to the good paying job. Same thing with relationships kids. You gotta go through the crap before you can get to the end. Otherwise you wouldn't be able to appreciate what you have and you won't be able to be as good at being in it if you hadn't screwed one or two of them up. It's like Alfred said to Bruce Wayne in Batman Begins "Why do we fall?..... So we can learn how to pick ourselves up."

But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.
2 Chronicles 15:7

The end of matters is better than the beginning and patience is better than pride.
Ecclesiastes 7:8