Pondering the Meaning of True Love

Quoting my friend Sue..."I once heard that you know you really love someone when you are more concerned for their well-being than satisfying your own desire..."

Now, this has got me thinking back once again on the words of another great and dear friend in my life. Talking with May one night she shared with me that she knew Waylon was the man for her and that it was true love because for the first time ever she could actually picture herself growing old with someone, that someone is of course her husband.

Now I find myself putting these two ideals together and pondering my own life. I have thought of May's words many times when dealing with the love I have for Phill and it always leaves me feeling whole, more grounded in some way. This is the man I want to be sitting on the park bench with twenty plus years from now, sharing my darkest secrets and deepest desires.

"True love is when you not only can't picture yourself growing old without this person but also when you can actually picture yourself growing old with them."

It is amazing the ways we find out the true meaning of love. It is almost as if a light that has never before shone has popped on in my head and I am seeing life in a wild new perspective. I am unsure as to how i had gone on married with children for thirteen years and never before felt these things but the one thing I am sure of is the feeling of joy that has almost invaded my every breath.

It has been some time since May's words were unknowingly etched into my subconscious, I loved the analogy from the start but at that moment it just made sense and wasn't "useful" to me... Now it seems that upon finding it in myself to admit that I am "In Love" with Superman I found my friends words rolling through my thoughts on a much deeper level. I guess it is true that every once in a while, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love comes along and gives us a fairy tale.

I am so thankful that Sue has given me another thing to ponder on as I define (to myself) my love for this man I am sharing my life with. Self definition, is that a real thing?

It really is satisfying isn't it? The satisfaction of loving someone that much is the best feeling I can think of!

It is my conclusion that you could line up a thousand people and ask them what they think of as "the definition of love" and no two answers would be the same. The irony lies in the fact that even if you were given a thousand different answers not one would be more true, or powerful, than another.

As with so many other things in life, love is what you make it. In saying that I would hope that each person who finds themselves staring into the eyes of the one with which they wish to spend out the rest of their years, they just make it as happy and fulfilling as they can.

*Names may have been changed or altered*