Ponderous, Man ... Really Ponderous

Do we make our own destiny or is our path already laid out for us? Are we really "free" to make our own choices... to shape our lives... to change course? I have come to a point in my life that I can honestly say I don't regret my choices, for the experiences that came from those choices have shaped me into the person I am today. I'm trying more and more to not live with the if-only and shoulda wished I hadda.

That's not to say that I'm completely happy with where I am on my journey, but wasting time and energy on things I no longer control is not something I'm willing to do anymore. So that takes me back to my original pondering... is this what Fate has planned for me and I'm just along for the ride? Or do I have the power to kick those boulders out of my way? People say all the time (and I'm one of them) that everything happens for a reason, there are no accidents. I'm making things happen right now to make my life better, and there are days I feel in control of where I'm going.

But are those things already predetermined and the feeling of control is just an illusion? What is meant to be will be? I don't know that I can let go enough to just allow Fate to guide me blindly down the path. And do I really believe in all that Fate crap?