Pornography as a Tool for Erotic Enhancement

Pornography is an ambiguous, emotionally charged word. What I don't understand, is why so many people are so afraid of pornography. First of all, in my opinion, pornography is NOT for children! Children cannot be consensually involved in pornography or sexual activities, because they do not have the capacity for consent. Likewise, I am vehemently opposed to ANY activity that is not consensual.

You don't want your children viewing pornography? Then, act responsibly and curtail or monitor your child's proximity to pornography! You hate seeing your spouse scroll through dozens of porn sites on the computer? Ask yourself what the real issue is… Is she bored? Lonely? Looking for an outlet for huge amounts of sexual energy? Or, is he looking for ideas to spice up or add to your own intimate sexual relationship? An erotic enhancement. Decide for yourself what is and more importantly, what is NOT acceptable.

Nevertheless, and here's the caveat: Pornography, in and of itself, is not the monster! Misuse and abuse of pornographic stimuli is the monster. Ignoring your spouse for a naked man on a computer monitor is the monster.

Erotic enhancement in relationships can be greatly aided by the use of pornographic materials. With pornography, a couple can explore edgy or different sexual styles. For example, for some people, the idea of getting a huge erotic charge from being spanked is a foreign concept- but can also be something about which the couple is erotically titillated. Rather than exposing your vulnerable emotional sexual relationship to 'trying out the real thing' with a THWACK! to your partner's bare bottom while making love, why not rent one of 373,018 (and counting) spanking movies? Settle in together to watch 'Only Good Girls Get Spankings' (coincidentally, the name of my husband's and my homemade porn movie, only available in our house, for us, so make your own!)

Before running to the nearest adult store to purchase Long Schlong Silver Amazing Vibrating Penis in a Box, experiment with video pornography! Why waste money on a Violet Wand if the very idea of sexual electrical play 'squicks' you? (squick: to make one want to run screaming from the room naked! Not the Oxford Dictionary definition, perhaps, but you get the picture).

Use pornography as an erotic enhancement tool for your sexual relationship. Enjoy the moments, together. Spend time together exploring realms of sexual play and eroticism that might be a bit unusual, at least in your present sexual relationship.

You might want to discuss how much time you will allow pornography to take from your real, sexually intimate moments together. Or, make pornography a part of those moments!

A few red flags about pornography use are:

• Viewing pornography substitutes for sexual intimacy with your partner

• Being secretive about pornography viewing, and not sharing with your partner

• Being unable to focus on the rest of your life, including work, family, and friends

• Severe changes in sleep patterns, eating habits, and/or hygiene management

• The inability to gain peak arousal without pornography

Using pornography as an intelligent, erotic enhancement, as a couple, can be exciting, educational and even erotic in itself. Set the scene for your erotic explorations; romance, open communications, comfort and including real life sexual play can make pornography the truly great relationship builder it can be!

Does some type of sexual activity sound interesting to you? Have you always wanted to be spanked erotically, while enjoying pummeling, mind-numbing sex with your partner? Select pornography from the many thousands of online catalogs, or for that matter, download video clips from the enormous selection of online sites, and then enjoy!

If you are concerned about your partner's or your own enjoyment of pornography, consider talking about it or learning more about pornography addiction at: http://www.sexualcontrol.com and http://www.utdallas.edu .