Positive Heart

Having low self-esteem hurts your heart and your spirit. There seems to be a lot of it going around lately. It takes awhile to get beat down to the point that you don't have a positive self image. It will not change in a day or a week but there are ways to get on the road to having a positive heart that you can start using right away.

First thing to do is to stop being so hard on yourself. Are you really brutal to yourself when you make a mistake? Stop it! Imagine the bruises on your heart and the damage this does. We all make mistakes and there is no reason to continue beating yourself up for being human. Every day is another chance to get it right. Start clean every day and do better than you did the day before. So what if things don't turn out the way you want every time? As long as you keep trying, give yourself credit for it and keep a positive perspective. You may be amazed at what you can accomplish.

You have to learn to laugh. Put a smile on your face no reason. Tell yourself something nice you know about you. When you look in the mirror, admire your eyes. Yes, it is hard to look at yourself when you have low self-esteem. Just practice it a little every day. If you act positive, even if you don't feel like it, you will see results. If you act confident, no one will know you are not really feeling that way but you. People will treat you differently when they perceive that you feel good about yourself. It is all about perception, yours and theirs.

Do something nice for yourself. This is one the best ways to beat low self-esteem. Start believing in you. It is hard to do at first. Kick the doubts to the curb and find the talents about which you can be proud. When you know you are good at something, it is a lot easier to perform at your best. If you believe in yourself, others will as well. The easiest way to do this is to use positive affirmations. Affirmations are a great self-esteem booster.

While you're doing something nice for yourself, try doing something nice for others. Nothing feels better than to know you helped someone along their way. When you get a compliment on something you have done, take it to heart. Accepting compliments is a part of building self-esteem when you accept that what you do is worth something to someone else. Give yourself credit for doing a good job and stop picking things apart out of habit.

Do you have that voice inside you that tells you all the time that you're stupid and you can't do anything right? Tell that voice to take a hike. Even say it out loud if that helps. If you have no self-esteem, you are quite used to saying mean things to and about yourself. Whenever that voice starts its rotten monologue, turn it around right away and start thinking about the things you do best. Maybe you have an outgoing attitude or you have a beautiful smile. It is important that you focus on what is best about you rather than what you don't like. Sometime in your life, someone has complimented something about you or what you have done. Even if that is the only thing you can think of right now, focus on that. It will soon become a habit to turn your negative thoughts around rather than continue to let them beat you down.

Find new friends who are positive and hang with them instead of the doom and gloom crowd you have now. There is nothing more depressing than being around a bunch of negative people. If you run with a positive crowd, it can't help but rub off on you. Your heart and your life will be a lot more positive and it can only go up from there.