Practical Tips on Dating for Men

This is the electronic age; everyone is using the internet for almost everything. We use it to shop, buy concert tickets and now we can even use it to get us a date for Friday night. Online dating can be a little intimidating at first but is something that you can easily master once you know the dating secrets. Here are some step by step guidelines to follow which should make it very easy to set up a profile and begin communicating with other singles.

Your Profile

The first thing to do is to create a good profile. Make your profile unique. Talk about your hobbies and interests, this is like an advertisement about you. You are the product. You want to show other daters what is special about you. A lot of men simply don't know what to write about when describing themselves. It's easier if you talk about the things that interest you. Everybody uses those same lines about liking to go out, cooking, etc. Think of things to say about you that might make you more interesting to another person, but don't lie or make up something because people can usually tell.

Once you have created your online dating profile, the next thing is to post a good photo of yourself. It's Ok if you don't have any recent ones, a camera phone can take good pictures too. Just take a few photos with your camera phone and upload them to your computer by USB data cable or by sending them to yourself in an email message. Then you can save them to a folder on your computer where you can upload them to the dating site.

A few Do's and Don'ts concerning photos:

Profiles without a photo don't generally get very good responses; it looks like the person may be hiding something. Meaning they may be married, or gained a lot of weight and are embarrassed, or think that they aren't attractive. If you want women to respond, you need to have a photo.

Secondly, when taking your photos please face the camera phone towards the mirror when taking the shot. I see a lot of men's photos that they took themselves facing a mirror, which is ok, but the camera ends up covering their faces in the shot. Turn the phone with the screen facing the mirror and put your finger on the capture button. You will be able to see yourself in the reflection of the mirror. Strike a natural looking pose, smile and take the photo. No one will ever know you took it yourself. This is how I take all of my own pictures and it works very well. You can also use a webcam if it takes still photos.

Once you have your profile and photo's posted, you can begin searching other users. You can do a search based on women in your city or state with a certain mileage restriction. This should produce a good number of results. Scroll through the profiles and click on the ones that interest you. If you find one that seems interesting, go in and read the rest of their profile and look at their photos.

Sending messages or "smiles", "winks" etc:

I see that a lot of men don't understand why women will look at their profile but not send them a message. Or not respond to a message they have sent to them. Well here is the the answer that every guy needs to hear. It's very similar to window shopping, you're having a look but you may not be interested in buying that product right now. Once you have been on the site for awhile, you should be getting quite a few messages a day. Some of these may be from women you don't particularly find attractive or just don't interest you. It seems rude to respond by telling them that you're simply not interested but you wish them luck. Women don't like to do this; we don't like to hurt people's feelings. So 9 times out of 10, we simply don't respond. And if we don't, don't get offended simply move on to the next possibility. Usually someone will respond to your message if there is an interest there.

Out of those 10 women who don't respond you may have a few that do. You've heard that old saying about not putting all of your eggs in one basket; message a few ladies at a time. Spread yourself around. I'm not saying to become a player, because real women want someone who is real. There are a lot of phonies on the internet too. Women and men, who put up just one photo that looks like a model type photo. I can almost guarantee you; this is not what they really look like.

When you begin communicating with someone:

Here is the secret

This is vitally important. Women don't like to be rushed, and they like to feel secure. Don't ask for a phone number right away. If you have talked by email a few times, it would be alright to offer her your number if she'd like to talk further. But don't ask for hers. Women like to feel that they have some anonymity. If she calls you she can block her number if she's not sure she wants to keep the communication going. She doesn't want to end up with a phone stalker, if things don't exactly work out. So offer her yours, but don't be offended if she doesn't call. To some people their phone is the like the front door to their house. They don't like it when someone drops by unannounced or calls when they are at work, visiting their mom, or at the hairdressers. Be considerate. I have broken off all communication with guys who are too pushy for more contact too soon.Let her decide when she feels comfortable enough to talk away from the dating site. No matter how interested she may be, if you come off as being too pushy or inconsiderate she may decide to end communications.

If you follow these guidelines, you should have good success with the online dating scene. Guys ask all the time, what they are doing wrong and why they haven't had any dates. Well maybe now you have a few of the answers to those questions and are better prepared. Be confident and go for it.This is advice that I give based on my own experiences with online dating.