Premarital Sex: Should it Be Abolished?

Why do most young people think that being intimate sexually with an individual before marriage will help them to get to know the person before marring the person? Sex should be the last resort to getting to know a person! In addition, sexual contact should take place when a person finally realizes that his or her mate is the one to marry. These individuals should be married because having sex can be a great bond between individuals. As a result, this bond can also be a thorn in a person's side if it is not with the right person to create a soul tie or bond. Premarital sex should be abolished because young people need to learn how to have self discipline, self respect, and to know there are consequences to their decisions.

Young couples need to learn how to have self discipline because if they are not disciplined sexually, how can they be disciplined in any other areas in their lives? For example, I met a twenty-one year old woman who was very pretty, and she talked about sex every five minutes. Her mind was occupied with sex. In addition, she didn't have any self control in her life; therefore, her life was out of control. She had three lovers in her life and couldn't figure out which one she should stay with; she claimed that she loved them all. Therefore, sometimes when people don't have any discipline, they can't be loyal to the person they are dating and wouldn't be a good wife or husband to this individual. Self control says a lot about a person, and it tells others how he or she would deal with his or her finances, life, and the way he or she thinks. That is why it is not good for people to sleep around with the person they are dating because young people do not know who they are really attaching themselves to.

Individuals need to have self-respect for themselves. For instance, the same young woman told me that she dated a guy once who was the opposite of her. That means when she wanted to have sex with him, he turned down her offer. He didn't believe in having sex outside of marriage and was adamant in his belief. Therefore, instead of her thinking about how this guy respected her as a woman, she talks about how she didn't understand why he didn't want to sleep with her. It is sad when a person doesn't know what self-respect truly means. She is so used to guys seeing her as a piece of meat that she doesn't know when someone really cares for her or loves her. She didn't have any respect for herself, and that is why she was so careless. People tend to treat a person the way a person thinks about him or herself. Therefore, young people should build up their self-esteem and have a mind to not just want any person that comes along. A person who wants a mate should look for more than how good an individual is behind closed doors. There is more to a person than sex. People need to have character and integrity in their lives in order to be a person people can respect and love. However, if they don't have these two important matters, they can't be true to others or be reliable.

There can also be consequences to the decisions we make in having sexual relations before marriage. Young people who want to have sex outside of marriage should critically think about some decisions they want to make. For instance, if a couple wants to have sex, they should think about marriage. If they are really in love, there shouldn't be an excuse about why the couple doesn't want to wait and get married first. What if a baby gets involved because of pleasure? What if one of the couple gets a transmitted disease such as a STD or HIV? Why defraud a person because of pleasure? Why even take a risk over having sex? Individuals should ask themselves if they are really in love with the person they are with. Also, young people should ask themselves if they want to spend the rest of their lives with the person they are dating too. These are some questions young adults should think about before getting themselves in a relationship.

In conclusion, young adults need to learn how to have self control, self esteem, and to know what happens after making unwise decisions in a relationship. Being with someone is sweet and loving. However, young couples should think about what they want in a relationship before pursuing each other. Sometimes it is not easy to extricate one from a bad relationship. There is a soul tie that forms when people are together even if they want to be in denial about it. Therefore, young couples and older couples as well should be more watchful and know who they really are as a person.