Prince Charming and the Truth About True Love

We grew up watching Snow White and Cinderella find true love when Prince Charming appeared. We decided that we too would wait for that special prince to find us and take us to his castle for and love us for all eternity. He will appear in a white Porsche and take us to his penthouse condo which we can furnish any way we want after we hire a decorator to take us to the D & D Building where only the most expensive furniture is sold. And we will never cook or clean - the castle help will do all that. But the birthday cards you got when you turned the big 30 have brown around the edges and Prince Charming's condo must be a town somewhere far away from yours cause you sure have never met him.

I'll let you in on a little secret. I know where he is. He is a patient of mine and comes to see me weekly. So I know the real Prince. And I can tell you, you aren't missing much. What you see is never what you get. And so it is with good old Princey.

He's an egotistical cheapskate with STD's. But you would never know that to look at him. On the outside, Armani and pricy transportation. On the inside, just a guy with problems. The condo is in foreclosure and he's too attached to his mother and the family money to really be able to connect to anyone else. He just got out of rehab and his brother is gay. And he pays child support to the princess he slept with one night while he was in a blackout.

Stop singing "Some Day My Prince Will Come". There's a good chance he came and went and you missed it. That's because unrealistic expectations can lead you to over look a really good catch. Sometimes the simplest most unassuming guy is the one who will love and adore you the most because he's not too busy loving and adoring himself. And generosity does not come from a bank account. It comes from the way a person was raised. Even the wealthiest guy can be cheap and withholding while a man of meager means can be generous of his time and money because it is a part of his nature to be that way.

It's easy to forget what true love is supposed to be. In the midst of material desires and a need to impress our friends with titles, money and fame we can forget the things that really matter. So let me remind you. At night, when the two of you are alone at home you want someone who will listen to you when you talk, care about what you say and respect your opinions. You want to be able to disagree without WWIII taking place. You care about each other's feelings and do not call each other names, lie to each other, cheat on each other or ignore each other. When you have sex it is for mutual satisfaction. Your relationship provides you with support- both emotional as well as financial. Money is combined because trust is a given. You're there for each other when you need each other. You can count on that. You are friends as well as lovers. If you have that, you have true love.

So, maybe your Prince Charming has slipped through your fingers. Now some other girl who was a lot smarter then you has gotten him. Keep your eyes open and be smarter next time. I understand there are a lot more princes out there if you just know what to look for.