Proud of Your Other Half?

There are many factors which make or break a husband and wife relationship or even a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. After talking to a few friends, I realized that one of the most common factor in a breakup is one or both parties not feeling proud of the other party.

How do you know if your other half is proud of you? A simple way is if he/she invites you out to his/her class gatherings, company functions, friends' dinner etc.

There are many things as to why a man is not proud of his wife. Things such as plain wife, fat wife, quiet wife, talkative wife, flirtatious wife, flat chested wife, weird looking wife etc. As for the husband, things which the wife are not proud of could be short man, ugly man, balding man, fat man, thin man, boring man, flirtatious man, earning less salary man etc.

I believe there are more "unproud characteristics" for men than women because women mostly look at outlook rather than the intrinsic matters, such as money and status.

I believe that if you truly love a person, you should accept who and what he/she is made up of. This means that if he was balding before you were married, you should not be complaining about his balding head after you are married to him. Vice versa, if the man wanted a plain wife so that she does not attract any bees, then he should jolly well accept that that was his choice.

There are 2 categories of characteristics which one party wants the other party to change: outlook and intrinsic factors. You can request the other party to put some gel on his hair to make it more tidier, but you can't tell the person to look more handsome or grow taller. As for ladies, i believe the one common factor is size, though eating habits and exercise can "cure" this size problem, i also believe that there is very slim chance that it will change.

Just a suggestion to all......

If you are married, look at what you have and treasure them.It doesn't really matter if you have a plain wife as long as she can take care of the family. It doesn't matter if you have a short husband if he can bring back the dough.

If you are not married, get to know your interest "target". Don't ever think that if she is not as beautiful as you would like, she will be after marriage. Chances is that it will get worse. And for the ladies, if your boyfriend has or lacks of something you have set as a "pre-requisite" for marriage, determine if it is possible for him to have or dispose of. If not, think trice before you walk down the aisle.

I am not trying to discourage people from getting married, in fact, i am always trying to get people to get married. But it would still be better to know what you really want in your other half before you get married. After you get married, if you discovered there is something lacking in your partner and you can't change it, it is too late. Of course there is still an escape route(divorce) but think of it this way, you have lost a long period of time in your short life span. Though marriage is not looked upon as important as our parents' generation, it is still one of the most important stage in our lives. So consider well and decide if you are proud of your other half.