Questions for Men About Pregnancy: Who Will Deliver the Baby when You Doctor is Not Present?

There are a million different places where people can get bogged down or concerned during the pregnancy process with unexpected events. One of the scariest moments for a woman during pregnancy is when she realizes that her doctor is not on call and will not be delivering her baby. This can be emotionally shattering for your partner, but men must remain composed and remind their partners of the process that is in place. Of course, to do this you must be aware of the process and be able to repeat it when necessary. This is how to do it.

You will have at least 10, if not more, appointments with your partner's doctor during the pregnancy and every one of these appointments will have a moment where your partner's doctor asks the question: Any questions? Simple question, complicated answer. What you must do is respond and ask questions at every opportunity to help your partner prepare for labor and delivery. If you aren't the one asking the question, you should be prepared to hear the answer at the very least.

When this question is asked and the response is given by the doctor (usually that another doctor in the practice will be on call and make the delivery) you need to commit it to memory. Remind yourself daily of how this situation would play out and then start to periodically remind your partner that you remember. This way when the moment actually comes and you are left explaining to your partner why the plans have changed you can both remind her that you were aware of this and that everything will be ok.

The truth for most deliveries is that the doctor is frequently not even in the room for a good majority of the labor (and sometimes even the delivery). Nurses will do the bulk of the work and you will rarely know them before the process has started so really not much was planned and didn't work out in the end. Explain to your partner that this is important to you too, but that you have prepared for this situation and then take over. Talk to the nurses about what your partner needs and get it for her, make the process as easy and real as possible.

When doctor appointments come around it is important for every man to attend as many as he possibly can. These appointments will bring things to light and make it clear how the process should happen and you will be very comforting for your spouse by knowing what comes next.