Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids: Work on that Marriage

Married couples often start out enjoying heart felt love and a relationship that takes top priority over all else. Tender moments and sharing the day's events were the high light of their day and seeing their spouse at the start of each day and at the end of each day would make life's challenges seem unimportant and trivial. Marriage may seem to get boggled down and busy as children are born.

The large belly, the strange cravings and the mood swings may have caused the first change in the romantic banter that the two of you shared. The impending birth of your child brought with it a second falling in love and the focus was no longer on just the two you. After the birth of the baby, both of your eyes lovingly drank in baby's first bath, first smile and the first tooth. Your marriage may have taken back a back seat to the love you shared with baby.

It is important to keep your marriage a priority. You must intentionally keep that dotingly tender love and affection for one another. Parents need to have a healthy marriage. Children should experience the best of your love for them and the best of your love for each other. Here are some ideas to strengthen your marriage and to raise emotionally happy and healthy children.

Romantic Mini Vacations

Special times of just the two of you must be created. Pull away from the routines of life and choose to hide away. A secret get away is one of the most romantic ways to put the tender spark of passion back in your marriage. Get a sitter for your children and keep it all hush-hush. Let the family know at the last minute that they will have a sitter. Let them know you are going on a secret vacation just the two of you and that you will receive emergency calls only. Take only one cell phone with you and turn the ringer off. This time is just for the two of you. Find the most romantic place that you can. Look for a great view and a place that you can hide away from the crowd. Determine that this will be a trip of silky pajamas and roses. Take only the necessities with you. Let this trip be filled with the basics that you require to laugh, love and talk.

Date Nights

Create special date nights that will be set aside just for the two of you. Do not bring children on any of your date nights. Choose clothing that displays your extra care for the dates. The husband should still bring flowers as he did when this love first got sparked. The wife should wear his favorite perfume. Each date night should be anticipated during the week. Talk about your plans and anticipate the special time together. Allow these times to be times of communication and joy. Avoid double dates and joining friends, date night should be just about the two of you. Keep this night simple and fun.

Love is meant to grow stronger with time. Cultivating your marriage is so important. Eat lunch together when you can and enjoy quiet moments together each day. Your caring, loving smiles will warm each other's day. Your life can be filled with joy that makes problems seem unimportant when you have a loving marriage. Your children will develop into loving, caring adults when they are raised by parents who are devoted to each other and them. Your love will create a sense of safety and protection around them that can be created no other way.