Rape Doesn't Stop with Just the Victim

Rape is a very harsh subject to talk about.Most just shy away and don't even want to talk about it.It doesn't matter if the were the raped victim or not.What people don't realize is there is always more than one victim..The crime itself may have only lasted 15 minutes but that 15 minutes causes in impact on all around us.
We spend all our time thinking about the victim and forgetting about the after attack.

After attack is who,what that surrounds the victim and how they feel.Most think that all women that are raped are single.Common stereo type that society has brought to us.Victim are young,old and come in many different sizes.Some may be single but others may not.Most don't even know how to talk to a victim let alone talk to the after attack victims.

Just recently a young women was attacked in her own home..Colorado state police say the man broke into the home and yanked the women out of her bed by the hair.News fail to tell you that a six year child was in the bed with her.The man dragged her to another room and thats where he raped and beat the women.The news fail to tell you there was a 5 month old baby in there.

Already we have three victims and this is within the first 15 minutes.Stop for a few minutes and think.Are we done with the list of victims? Not a chance.Kids are in the home there has to be a father or husband.Now were not going to stop there.Remember everyone has neighbors and don't think for one moment that they are not a victim.

Neighborhood no longer safe.Now they have to lock their doors.Afraid to go outside or maybe not even let the children go out and play.Think about those single moms living in that neighborhood or maybe even the housewives whose husbands are out of town working.Imagine Knowing your neighbor and that they just got raped.We can't stop there..Think about the family.

The mother and father of the young women.Maybe even brother and sisters.Grandma,Aunt,Cousins it really doesn't matter who you are in a the family it will effect all.You can't even stop there.Remember that we have friends.They to get to be a victim..They still feel the pain and emotions of a rape.Lets not forget who we tend to lean on.Our friends and family..

We can't stop there either.We all have jobs so yes even the co-workers will feel the effect.At times rape has been chalked down to just one victim.There is many silent victims that are forgotten about.Where do we go from here? Now that you know there is more than one victim.What can you do to help?

A good start in helping those who get in the after affect is to let them know that you are there to listen.Maybe even lift a helping hand.Each and every victim just needs to know that they are loved and there is someone there to help.If you know the victims family the may need a home cooked meal.Maybe even need help cleaning anything that was done in the attack.

Most family's can't bring themselves to clean it.Some hire companies to come in.Most can't afford to.Please remember it is better to lend a helping hand than it is to send flowers.Support is vital not constant reminders.Flowers will not help them smile.Respect the family's decision on to let people know updates or to keep it on the down low.

Now is not the time to start rumors.Maybe the kids need a lift to school.Grocery shopping needs to be done.Even something silly as walking the dog.During this time they all need helping hands.Do respect if they choose to be alone.Just let them know you are there for them when they need you..Never push them into answering question they are no comfortable with.

How can we protect ourselves from rape.Basic simple rules apply.

1.Always lock your doors and windows
2.Never go alone if at possible take a friend.If it's dark ask someone in the business to walk out with you.
3.Pay attention to everything around you.

If you use common sense you should be able to avoid being put into this spot.Most of all if it does happen to you or anyone you know let them know it is not their fault.This is the most important thing you can tell them..