Rape, Not a Choice!!!
I'm about to approach a subject that Is long overdue. Sexual Abuse,
I am writing this because I too was abused at the age of nine. No I never told. why? because your scared, and your ashamed. not because you did anything wrong but because your abuser led you to think he "loved you, or he was just being friendly, Not so. an abuser Is a sick minded individual who has a lustful spirit for children. he doesn't care that he's ruining your life. or the trauma he's putting you through. he's out for self gratification. you don't matter.
Most often when an abuse takes place, It's a family member. in-law or out-law, they know you want tell. It's hard for the abused to reveal such an act. It Is so horroific. they just want to hide and forget, they block It out, maybe for years, but then something triggers It .
I have wished a thouisand times over, that I had revealed my abuser and let the chips fall where they may. family or not. the culprit should have been casterated, horsewhipped and put away for life. there's nothing they could have done to him, severe enough. the abuser Is not the one suffering, It's the abused. they live with this the rest of their life.
When a child Is abused they can only go two ways, frigid or oversexed. even though they marry, they have a hard time coping, because It brings back memories of the abuse. I've talked with people who, even years after, are still having trouble In their marriage. I married at the age of fifteen, when my husband found out I wasn't a virgin he blamed me. for years he put me through living hell. It Is not the victum's fault but we are the one's to blame. man never takes the blame for any of It. We carry the scars to our grave.
I loved my mother dearly but when something happend in the family, she'd say, don't tell your daddy, they'll be trouble. well there should have been, but if we were to keep quiet about small things, imagine how much more the sexual thing. there was no telling It.
If a child Is not safe In his own home, where can he go, whom can he depend on? mamas and daddys are supposed to protect their children. I would have killed for mine. thank God I was never put to the test.
I will be doing several series on "sexual abuse. hopefully another tomorrow.
God bless.
I am writing this because I too was abused at the age of nine. No I never told. why? because your scared, and your ashamed. not because you did anything wrong but because your abuser led you to think he "loved you, or he was just being friendly, Not so. an abuser Is a sick minded individual who has a lustful spirit for children. he doesn't care that he's ruining your life. or the trauma he's putting you through. he's out for self gratification. you don't matter.
Most often when an abuse takes place, It's a family member. in-law or out-law, they know you want tell. It's hard for the abused to reveal such an act. It Is so horroific. they just want to hide and forget, they block It out, maybe for years, but then something triggers It .
I have wished a thouisand times over, that I had revealed my abuser and let the chips fall where they may. family or not. the culprit should have been casterated, horsewhipped and put away for life. there's nothing they could have done to him, severe enough. the abuser Is not the one suffering, It's the abused. they live with this the rest of their life.
When a child Is abused they can only go two ways, frigid or oversexed. even though they marry, they have a hard time coping, because It brings back memories of the abuse. I've talked with people who, even years after, are still having trouble In their marriage. I married at the age of fifteen, when my husband found out I wasn't a virgin he blamed me. for years he put me through living hell. It Is not the victum's fault but we are the one's to blame. man never takes the blame for any of It. We carry the scars to our grave.
I loved my mother dearly but when something happend in the family, she'd say, don't tell your daddy, they'll be trouble. well there should have been, but if we were to keep quiet about small things, imagine how much more the sexual thing. there was no telling It.
If a child Is not safe In his own home, where can he go, whom can he depend on? mamas and daddys are supposed to protect their children. I would have killed for mine. thank God I was never put to the test.
I will be doing several series on "sexual abuse. hopefully another tomorrow.
God bless.
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Post a Commentyou are the bravest person I know to be able to write about this and what happen to you.you were rob of your childhood because of some no good adult. I would like to put my story on here but I would have to call name. and that would not be good at this time. you are the sweetiest Aunt that I have. Love you with all my heart.
Bless your sweet, sweet heart. What a difficult thing to have lived with your entire life. How completely unselfish of you to put yourself out there in an effort to help even one person who may be going through a similar situation. The sad truth is that your young life as you knew it was terminated. You never got to experience a normal teenage life since you married young. And your married life was full of heartache and as you said "hell" because of the abuse. But because you have such a strong courage of conviction and faith, you still choose to turn those negatives into something positive by sharing your tragedies in hopes that someone will draw strength from your suffering. I can't tell you how much I love you and how proud I am to be a member of the same gene pool. YOU ROCK!!! Much love and respect...Missy
Dean, I know this might well have been one of the hardest thing you have ever done. Your words will not go for naught. It is my prayer that your words will reach the right eyes to make a difference in so many lives. I am glad that God is using you in this way. I love you
Thank you Verne for the kind words, I speak not only for me, but for so many others. I hope I get some feed back from other readers on this. God bless.lol