Real Friendship

I realised the meaning of this statement when I started my study in the University. When you are in school (Pri, Sec, JC, Poly), you have lots of friends and you will go out with your friends more and more often. But as you grow older, how many of your Pri or Sec friends do you keep in contact. Most of the time, only a couple or a handful. And these are only keeping contact and not chatting about your most intimate feelings. After you and your good friends got married, more time would be spent with our spouse/family/children. Finding time to meet would be a challenge. And as you get even older, you are supposed to concentrate on your career and thus having even lesser time for meeting up with friends. At the end, most people are yearning for more friends ...maybe >50-60yrs old but don't they know that the "lack" of friends is because they did not have time for them when they are younger?

When I say friends, I meant close and real friends. Not those who will leave you in a lurch when you needed help and also not those who would only ask for your support but never gives anything in return. My definition of real friends are a bit more extreme..to an extent that I understand most would think such thinking does not exist in this era. For me, real friends are those who would die for you. Something you see from triads movies. I believe its a feeling one has for the other which is possible in any relationship(parents, siblings, spouse, children, friends etc). Once you have that strong enough feeling, you would want to protect that person from any harm.

I am fortunate that I have quite a few friends whom i really treasure. Not a lot. Countable with your 10 fingers but I think it is enough to maintain good relationships with them. More of these are females and I am glad I'm able to communicate with gals but it also meant that my bonding with guys is lousy. Though I have these friends now, I do know and understand that they will not be there forever. Or rather, the relationship between 2 persons will never be the same forever. There is a saying "Live your life like there is no tomorrow". Similarly, "Love your friends like there are no friends tomorrow.". Note: Love = friendship love.

Since then, I have tried to maintain the close relationships I have developed. I am still guilty at times on "eating snake" or giving my friends a hard time in meeting up or helping out.