Reasons Couples May Stop Having Sex

There are many reasons that one part of a couple may be lacking in the sex department. Men and women most of the time have varying reasons for an absent sex life. Many times when one says "It's not you, it's me" can honestly hold true but the problem is your significant other may be struggling with what's wrong or uncomfortable with discussing it with you.

The causes between male and female can be different while some may suffer the same reasons. Below is a breakdown of the reasons what may be causing a decrease in your partner's libido. With some knowledge and open communication your partner and you should be on the track back to a healthy and normal sex life.

Reasons for decreased libido in man and women:

• Stress: stress can be around any corner or lurking in the deepest shadows. It can come from personal problems, family problems, work related issues and many other sources. When people are feeling stressed they can exhibit all kinds of different symptoms for example being tired and depression.

• Arguments: When one argues with their significant other, the other partner may become resentful and withhold sex as a punishment. It may be they the argument was bad enough that the one of the partners is still feeling resentful and having a hard time getting over the fight.

• Medications: There are various medications that can cause a person's libido to decrease; there are also medications that can cause erectile dysfunction in men. If you are on a new medication and find your libido has decreased it is important to talk to your medical care provided to see if there are alternatives to the medications you are on that do not have adverse sexual effects.

• Lack of Attraction: Our bodies change as we get older and sometimes we lose that sexual attraction towards our partners. It's important to discuss this before it gets to a point where you are no longer having sex at all with your partner or you choose to look outside the relationship for your sexual needs.

Reasons for decreased libido in men:

• Masturbation: Sometimes men who overly masturbate lead to not wanting to have sex with their partner. It could be what they use as visual stimulation is different than how their spouse looks and they lose attraction. Masturbation is also a cause for decreased libido if your partner is turned off by the fact a male masturbates.

• Fear of Intimacy: Some men fear intimacy and may come off as emotional overload for a man. They there for pull back from the intimacy aspect of sex and sex is lacking the compassion and caring in some relationships where it causes problems between the couple.

• Erectile Dysfunction: Some men ejaculate quicker than others and this can lead to men not wanting to have sexual relations in fear of disappointing their partners. Rather than feel like a failure these men may avoid sex. There are different types of erectile dysfunction other then quick ejaculation for instance impotence and partial impotence where a male starts to achieve a erection and then suddenly lose it.

• Hormonal Problems: One stimulant that is vital to men's libido is testosterone. When a decreased libido becomes a problem talking to ones medical care provider about this can lead to a blood test to see if testosterone levels are low.

Reasons for decreased libido in women:

• Boredom: It may be that the female is just not enjoying sex so she feels as if she needs to avoid sex instead of discussing how she feels. If this is the case trying to spice things up in the bedroom or trying to talk to the female may work. Some women are embarrassed to discuss sex with their partners though and clam up.

• Pain during Sex: This would be the equivalent to erectile dysfunction in men. It could be a problem as simple as needing low-dosage hormonal therapy or possibly an underlying condition in a female like endometriosis. It's important for a female experiencing pain to talk to their partners and there medical care provider to help fix the issue of pain during sex.

Sources:

Why Women Stop Having Sex

Top 10 Reasons Why Men Don't Want Sex