Reasons Why You Should Never Get Married

Many people today get married and often times that marriage ends in a divorce. With a divorce rate now of about 50 percent there could be reasons as to why these marriages are failing. So many people today are marrying for all the wrong reasons. Some of those reasons are an unexpected pregnancy, security and to just be taken of, wanting to get out of a parents home, and money.

When couples face an unexpected pregnancy, the guy may decide to do the right thing and marry the mother. If love isn't involved in this, then most likely this marriage will not work out. One or the other, which is involved in the relationship, will start feeling trapped. This is usually what the male ends up feeling in the relationship. Eventually resentment will set in. Harsh feelings will begin to develop and start driving the couple apart. In the end you have an innocent child that has had to deal with the negative aspects of the relationship. I have seen this happen with many of my friends today. This doesn't just happen in teenage couples, this happens at all ages. It is never good to get married because of a pregnancy.

Some women are taught that in order to have security and to be taken care of, they need to marry to achieve this. This often happens to women who are younger and are unsure of who they are. They look at maybe starting a relationship with an older man as a means to gain this security and to allow the man to take care of them. From what I have noticed in this area it doesn't work in most cases. I have seen friends who have done this and then turn around and be unhappy because their knight in shinning armour didn't live up to their standards of security. They weren't taken care of like they thought, and once they were married things went downhill. Women first should learn to gain security on their own and to take care of themselves and just be dependent on themselves. Getting married for the purpose of security is another reason not to.

Another reason why people tend to marry is money. This usually happens more with women looking for financial security. Nothing is wrong with financial security if again there is love involved in the relationship. Some women tend to not worry about love and end up marrying just for money. I had an aunt that did this. It ended in divorce. She didn't love the guy she was with, but he had a great job and lived very comfortably. All she could see was dollar signs. Money isn't everything and will not necessarily make you happy. Maybe you can buy the things you have always wanted, but you will still feel lonely. Money won't take the place of true companionship and that is where many women go wrong. I know just by the example of my aunt that women who marry just for money will often cheat because they are always looking for that companionship. Learn to be financially secure on your own. Never marry anyone because of money or wealth.

There should be one reason and one reason only as to why couples should marry; it's plain and simple. That reason is LOVE. There should never be anything that comes above that. Many people today forget about that one aspect of a marriage and marry for the wrong reasons. In the end it causes nothing but heartache, and if children are involved they become hurt as well. To love, honor, and cherish should be the only reasons why people should marry.