Rebound Love

Rebound love is when a person either uses another person to suppress the heartache of a prior relationship or uses another person to make an ex jealous.

Why People fall into rebound relationships?

There are people who create the rebound relationships and there are others who fall into them. A person setting up a rebound relationship sets a relationship up as he or she would a hunting trap to capture and feed off prey for survival. This person seeks vulnerable women or men and lures them into a relationship with a deceptive personality, once they have them into the trap or point of comfortableness, the door shuts and the person feeds off of the love and support the prey gives to survive heartache and loss. The people, who fall into the trap like myself, are vulnerable, curious about love, sweet, compassionate people, who are devoted to anyone that can love them equally and respectfully. These people jump at the thought of true love and so are completely unaware of being used, until way deep in the relationship where emotions run thick. These people do try and hang in the relationship even when threatened by furious exes, and thought of as secondary by our partner. We leave the relationship with a significant amount of pain, heartache, and emotional burden which defers any plans of dating again.

Who Is Susceptible?

The fashion of using people will never grow old so many people old, and young, male, and female have or will experience rebound love. Issues with rebound love is frequent with young people, and those who aren't ready for any real commitment

The Problem With Rebound Love.

Rebound love only suppresses a person's pain and does not heal it. The person seeks refuge in others too quickly, not leaving any time to recover from the bumps and bruises of the prior relationship; this usually leaves the person feeling twice as more heartache.

Why Rebound Relationships Fail

Rebound relationships fail because the person does not take the time to analyze why their previous relationship had failed. The person burdens their new partner with expectations that their last partner could or would not fulfill, creating a tug of war of emotions and a great strain on the new relationship. (Taking the time to analyze a previous relationship is essential because it allows the person to learn from mistakes made, and teaches that person what to avoid when beginning a new relationship, it also brings the person a true sense of closure, and authentic security.) The person continues to use their new mate to establish a sense of security by telling the new mate that he/she loves her/him when it is true lust that the person feels. The person says this to the new mate so that he/she may reap the benefits from using the word love, thus creating that security of relationship that he/she sought after, but this security is usually momentary. The new mate oblivious to the person's evil plan of using her/him to suppress his/her pain, begins to believe that they are in true love, and wants to progress deeper into the new relationship. Her/his feelings get stronger and she/he gets more comfortable and begins to seek emotional and physical equivalency . The person not feeling the same way begins to grow annoyed, then frustrated, than resentful, and finds himself constantly arguing as they can not agree upon anything. Any effort to reside on the climax of the relationship is impossible, the relationship takes its time to quickly disintegrate. The ironic thing about this situation is the person although feeling completely annoyed and resentful hesitates to split from this new relationship, for fear of loneliness, and lack of security, because with no one by his/her side he/she has no choice but to face the true facts of why both of his/her relationships failed, and sometimes alone time consists of the person having to deal with his own flaws or demons which can hurt.

In other instances the new mate figures out quickly the partner's true intentions, the new mate then becomes the one who feels annoyed, frustrated, and resentful and may even find herself/himself arguing with the partner's ex or even competing against the ex, creating a vicious love triangle or as I like to call I, lust triangle, they may end up with a person or persons getting harmed. The new mate may even try to keep the relationship together disregarding the fact that she/he is being used, or she/he may just decide to break off the relationship and leave.

Are You In A Rebound Relationship?

-Here are some important tips to finding out if you're in a rebound relationship.

· Your partner has recently broken up with ex.

· Your partner has a picture or pictures of ex girlfriend or boyfriend kept in a protective place in his room or house.

· Your partner talks to ex on the phone twice a month or more (not regarding giving items back).

· Your partner gets a thrill out of seeing two women/men argue over him/her.

· Your partner takes his time retrieving his box of items from ex's house.

· Your partner talks about ex around you and friends when you're out.

· Your partner invites ex over to his/her house and his/her family is completely comfortable with it.

· Your partner constantly talks about ex ,expressing dislike or like

· Your partner wants to constantly make out with you and do nothing else

· Your partner compares you with ex

· Your partner goes out as friends with ex

· Your partner has intercourse with ex as a means of closure

· Your partner tells you he/she loves you too soon in the relationship, (first month or second month...)

· Your partner has a handful of short ending relationships and one long relationship that has ended.

· Your partner uses you to make his/her ex jealous.

· Your partner uses you as a personal shrink to talk about the woes of last relationship.

· Acts funny when you are in the presence of his/her friends.

· Your partner does not love and respect you as you do him/her.

· You feel secondary to the ex that was once in your partner's life.

· You remain devoted to your partner but he/she continues to cheat.

· You exceed any expectations that your partner has for you but still can't seem to bring him/her satisfaction.

· You can not meet the expectations that your partner held for his last partner and now holds for you.

· You worry that your partner is cheating with ex when he is not with you.

· You sometimes hear others speak of the great adoration your partner held for his/her ex.

· You feel used.

If any thing that I have mentioned applies to you or your partner than you may be in a rebound relationship. My suggestion is; Get Out Now, while your heart is a little hard, because once you soften up, your open game for heartbreak! Rebound love is not worth it, consider rebound love if you are not interested in commitment, and are capable of not possessing any feelings for your partner.