Recognizing Abusive Teenage Relationships
Tips for Parents to Help Their Children Cope with Relationships
There are signs that perhaps isolated incidents mean nothing, but if you start combining them there will be no mistaking the situation. Here are a few signs to watch for that may save you and your teenager a lot of heartache by identifying the abusive teenage relationship. Don't be mistaken that this is something that is applicable to females only, because it isn't as the males can get up into this type of relationship as well.
Indication 1:
You find personal belongings of your teens that are continuously being broken. Perhaps a radio or cell phone for example. It always seems to occur after they have been out with their partner.
Indication 2:
You child seems to be getting a lot of bruises and skin markings later. When you question them they laugh it off and just say they were playing fighting and it got rough. If you notice this happening more often than not then beware, your child may very well be in a teenage abusive relationship.
Indication 3:
You know your child is not happy with their boyfriend. You have advised them to break it off, but the response is they can't because the person can't live without them. There is a fear of that person harming themselves.
Indication 4:
School grades are starting to drop and your teen is hanging out with any other friends. This may be becoming an isolation issue over jealousy.
Indication 5:
You note a decrease in appetite or weight loss. When you as a parent express your concern, the teen will say that their partner is always saying they are getting chunky.
Indication 6:
It seems like your teen is never allowed to be away from her boyfriend, and when she is he is constantly on the phone to her. This can be a sure sign of an abusive teenage relationship.
Indication 7:
Your teen always seems to be unhappy because her boyfriend is always in a bad mood.
Indication 8:
You have noticed things in her boyfriends comments and attitude, that they put girls down all the time.
Indication 9:
Your teen is always feeling sorry for her boyfriend. Other girls have used him, or his parents don't understand him. These are often excuses the teen in an abusive relationship will offer in regards to their boyfriend.
Indication 10:
All of the signs we have outlined we have referred to it being the girl who is in the bad relationship. Just reverse it for the guys, because it happens frequently. Just because they are males and suppose to be the stronger of the two doesn't make it acceptable or right. Instill in your children they should demand dignity and respect.
Published by Ed Lam
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4 Comments
Post a CommentTo the person who posted below me requesting advice: If you want this person out of your life, tell them firmly to cease contact with you or anyone else in your family. If they continue then you can file charges for harassment. I don't know if laws are different when it comes to underaged people, but I imagine that action would be taken in such a case (and anyone may correct me if I'm wrong). Before calling the cops make sure you try and get some supple 'evidence' (recorded calls or phone records, emails, dead cats on the doorstep (bad joke, sorry), whatever you can). Oh I was going to say good luck but then saw the date on your comment... my bad. I hope the issue has been resolved by now!
Good article. I am really glad you wrote it because it's an important issue that parents do need to be aware of (without hopefully becoming paranoid every time their kid had a bad day). One thing I was wondering though: What would you suggest a parent should do if he/she/they discover that their child is indeed being abused? What action do they take when the kid is 'scared' to break it off, or doesn't want to? What is the best course of action for a parent who has a strong suspicion but no way of PROVING that there is any abuse? Last thing I wanted to draw attention to is that boys can be abused by girls in relationships too, so parents should watch for these signs when it comes to sons as well.
my son girlfriend is obsessed or possesive with him wen they have a fallen out he wont talk to her but she constantly phones him or pesters my self or his dad to get him to call her this is not natural behaviour for young girl any advice wud be greatly appreciated. thanks concerned parent.
good info... thanks