Eye Contact
From infancy, babies make brief eye contact with their parents. By the age of three months, your baby should be gazing into your eyes when you cuddle or sing to them, or when they are feeding. Eye contact increases as a baby grows older. They are able to look at you for longer amounts of time, and seem interested in doing so. Many children who are later diagnosed with Autism have difficulty providing good eye contact with their caregivers, something that should have been well-established earlier in life.
Babbling
When an infant is a few months of age, you may hear them vocalizing vowel sounds. By the time they are approximately six months of age, you may hear some consonant sounds. Then as they get a bit older you will hear what we call bi-syllabic repetitions, which are basically sounds such as "ma-ma" and "ba-ba." By the time your child is approximately eleven, twelve months of age, they should be jargoning. Jargon is simply stringing sounds together, so it sounds like your child is speaking another language of sorts. You may hear something that sounds like "mabababoodu," for example. This is your child's way of practicing how to place certain sounds together in preparation of saying actual words later on. Many children diagnosed with Autism have a delay in the area of language. If your child is not babbling at all, seems to be making no sounds and is normally very quiet, then it may be a "red flag."
Responding to Their Name
By the time a child is approximately ten to twelve months of age, they should look in your direction when you call their name. Now, I'm sure many of you have heard of the phrase "selective hearing." That applies here for sure. My son is 13 months old, and there are times that he just simply does not want to respond to his name. There are better things for him to do at the moment as he's pretty busy, but the difference here is that he's simply ignoring me. I understand that he knows his name and will whip his head around when I call him, no matter where I am at the moment. Many parents of children who are later diagnosed with Autism think that perhaps their child has a hearing loss because they will not look when their name is called. I cannot recall one case where I've worked with a child who had a diagnosis and actually did have a hearing loss (although it's possible). Not responding to their name is just a symptom of Autism itself.
Gestural Communication
Another aspect of language is gestural communication. By the time a child is approximately 12 to 15 months of age, they should be using gestures to communicate their wants and needs to you. Perhaps they point to things around the room for you to label, or maybe you have introduced sign language to them and they have picked up on a few signs.
Seeking You Out
By the time a child is twelve to fifteen months old, they should be seeking you out to show you objects that are of interest to them. This can be as little as the both of you sitting on the floor together and your child holding their toy in their hand and extending it to you to look at. They should also be seeking you out just simply to say "hello" in their own little way. For example, when my son sees me enter the room that he's in, he'll look at me and crawl over to sit in my lap. By seeking you out, your child is showing that their social skills are developing well. A child with Autism has a lot of difficulty when it comes to social skills. They are often very independent, playing by themselves. At times they may not realize you have entered the room and really seem to have no interest in showing you objects that they may be holding, or coming over and trying to interact with you. They may appear to be really "into" what they are doing at any given moment.
Toy Play
Another "red flag" to look for would be the way your child plays with a specific toy or even the types of toys they seem interested in. For example, I had a little boy that I knew, approximately 14 months of age, who was incredibly interested in remote controls. He loved to push the buttons and to spin it around and around in his hand. He could do this for what seemed to be hours. Maybe your child enjoys blocks but seems to only stack them next to each other in a line and becomes upset with you if you try to do anything else with them, like trying to stack them into a tower. As far as babies are concerned, many children with Autism love spinning objects, including ceiling fans. Please remember that if your baby loves to watch a ceiling fan, this absolutely does not mean that they are definitely Autistic. My son is enthralled with the ceiling fans right now (and remote controls, too). It's just something to keep in mind along with these other factors I've laid out for you. Around 12 to 18 months or so, your child should vary play with toys, being able to play with specific toys in different ways. Using blocks as an example, maybe they enjoy placing them in a cup, then taking them out. But instead of doing this over and over again, and only this, they are also interested in perhaps stacking one on top of the other, or banging them together, and will observe you when you try to show them different ways of playing with these blocks.
If your child is displaying any of these signs, please remember that they could absolutely be typically developing. If, indeed, they do have a delay it doesn't necessarily mean that they are Autistic. Their language, for example, could be delayed. Yes, children with Autism normally have delayed language, or if their language is not delayed, it's typically not used appropriately. But delayed language does not equal Autism. If you have any concerns about your child's development, contact your pediatrician who will be able to refer you to a local early intervention program or developmental clinic for testing.
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Post a CommentHi Lisa :) Have you spoken to your pediatrician to pose your concerns? I would definitely hope that your pediatrician would take the time to listen to you. I'm not sure where you live but there is also something called Early Intervention. Your pediatrician can give you the number of your local EI center and you can cal to let them know that you would like a developmental evaluation and tell the secretary why this is so. A team will come to your home and evaluate your child. They'll be right there with you, and therefor, much more able to tell you what they are seeing and anything that you can do. 4 months is quite young, but they service children from birth. In many states, EI is free, or cost is minimal for families. Good luck and enjoy your time with your baby! :)
Hi there,
I am quite concerned as my 4 month old infant does not track objects and rarely looks at me. He seems to look from side to side but never focuses on anything. Could he simply be a slow developer? He looks at me more than he did as a newborn, but not as much as he should. I am going to get his eyes tested. If this proves to be normal, is it likely he is autistic? Can anything be done at this early age to help shape and encourage development?
Hey Tiffany :) At 8 months, your son is still pretty young. I wouldn't expect a child to "truly" respond to their name until closer to a year - it seems that what he's doing now (responding to your voice) is appropriate. As for the eye contact, you can play with him on the floor, tickle his body, hover over him when he's on his back, etc. Get close to him and see if you can make the eye contact this way :) Smile and talk to him, see if he responds back. That's the greatest thing you can do for you son right now and exactly what his developing mind is needing :) Post back with any other questions later on!
My son is 8 months and has varied eye contact what can i assume is good? He sees me when i walk in and smiles and comes to me but once im there he just goes back to play. Also he only responds to his name about 50% of the time, mostly if he hears the voice from afar and looking for whos saying it, not while you are sitting close to him. Do any of these seem like red flags to anyone??
MAH, you are very welcome - pass it along as I know there are an extreme number of parents with questions today. (Sorry I did not see your post sooner!)
I realized I spelled article artical..ha....sorry!!!
Thanks for this artical!! I have read and read on early signs of autism and about to self diagnois my 6 month old...but after reading this, he really doesn't apply. I felt so much better after reading the eye contact part as well...because his seems to be improving daily...and only seems "bad" when tired now so I def. feel better. THANKS!!
Mercury toxicity is often mistaken for autism. Very informative!
Lakesha, I only just now saw your comment. I am so sorry that I have not responded sooner than now! I hope that you are still able to see it as I have no way of contacting you!
If your son has a diagnosis of being developmentally delayed, then he is not Autistic. Yes, children with Autism are developmentally delayed (to go into more detail would take pages!), but if you are developmentally delayed, it does not automatically mean that you are also Autistic. Each child should be treated for their specific need(s) of area, whatever they may be, so my assumption is that your son is getting some type of therapy in the school setting. ?? Developmental Delay could mean any number of things, and I don't know your son, so I am not able to tell you how to better help him. If you have any questions at all, I am sure that your school system would better be able to help you out. They are more aware of your sons strenghts and weaknesses and can give you suggestions for home carry-over.
i have an 8 year old son. i had him at 28 weeks, being that he was born prematurely he was tested for all types of dianosis, all came back normal. they dianosed him with developmentally delayed. would i treat this like autisim?