REGRETS WILL NOT BRING BACK the PRESENT

Since we talk about marriage and covenants before I wanted to talk about regrets.

I have met people in my life that have confessed that after leaving their spouses and re-married ( so called marriage only)they wish they have not done it because it led to loss of time with their children since they had to be shuffled back and forth and not only a loss to themselves but a loss of their children ever knowing what it means to grow up with both parents.

I know that not every situation is livable, but all situations are forgivable. It offends me to see so many people calling themselves Christians yet they are unforgiving, abandon their children, give them up to DHR, divorce their spouses because ont their radar someone else appeared and then they talk about how happy they are....
How can one be happy abandoning their spouse? How can one be happy being so selfish that they would rather be with another person than working things out with their spouse to ensure that God rules in that family and children have both parents.

We are so selfish that we only think about ourselves and forget about our kids. We tell the other person we met and it is so exiting that we love them more than our own families and we are willing to make our kids not know what it means to have both parents together just so we can get a little sex from the other person and give us butterflies in our stomach.
We need to grow up! Some of us doing these things are too old to do stuff like this.We are not teenagers. When you married you loved your spouse and it was exciting and yes life brings situations that make people grow apart, but that only because people do not follow God. Marriage is work yet so many of us treat and have treated our marriages( the first ones because those are that one that truly matter if your former spouse is still alive) like they are just boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
No my friend! Do you know what happens when two people become one? And do you know what happens when that ONE flesh is broken...it is not two like some think..it is two half bleeding....and kids suffering in the middle.

"Well my spouse is like that and that". What about you? Have you taken an honest look at yourself? Are you so perfect that you think you can move on and hurt other people and want God to forgive you and you claim grace, yet you do not show that to your wife or husband? The Bible says we will be given mercy as we show mercy. How you measure you will be measured. But some of us think that we can live in sin and Jesus is our righteousness and we still go to Heaven. Grace teaches us to break it OFF with ungodliness..not continue in it...Jesus said if we love Him, we will obey Him. That means ,my friend, if you do not obey Him, you do not love Him and do you think that if you do not love God, heaven is your inheritance?

Regrets....what happens one day when you will finally realize you were wrong but by that time your 4 year old is 20, your wife that you taught it was not your wife anymore is so sick because you abandoned her and she had to suffer so much to just make it and cried every night because of the emotional pain you caused her? What happens when the truth will come out and God will reveal it to you and you will realize you took care for years of someone else's wife or another kid's mom and your own child's mom or dad is dying? Isn't that a disfavor to your own child? Or the first kids do not matter?

I am sick of hearing that comment, " Well, they ahve kids now, he/she cannot leave now." When do those kids matter more than the first? When do the kids of Hagar matter more than Abrahams'? God even agreed with Sarah to send away the concubine with her kids. Just because you have a kid it doesn't mean you have to stay.Yes, it is a sad situation for everyone..that is what SIN does, but nowhere does it say that a kid makes a relationship legitimate. There are many people out there having kids out of wedlock..it doesn't mean they have to be together or that, that makes them married now.

Marriage is between you and your spouse not your kids.

What if you think you know the truth and it is ok what you are doing and ONE day you will find out that you WERE wrong. I know the truth about marriage and many do, but many do not and do not WANT to know it. That is a worse problem.And then you will live with regrets that you didn't give your child the opportunity to live with both parents, to see what God can do...but so many people legalized their adultery, go to the other room and pray with their kids or the kids of the other person and then go to the next room just to commit adultery with their mother or father.

I would not want to wake up one day with those kind of regrets. You cannot afford to blow it! We have no excuses as Christians to blow this one. The years your child loses will NEVER come back. They years you wasted on another man, will never come back.

Do not let regrets follow you all your life. I have regrets and they bring tears into my eyes bc I cannot fix them. I wish I had done better...but I am angry at myself for not having someone tell me the truth and not doing better.

But there are regrets I cannot afford. And if you are in that situation that someone else causes you to have regrets, forgive and reconcile if possible. if your spouse is like the devil, pray for them. Stop saying you believe God. Show it. God changes lives. He changed you, right? It is time to believe God or satan will ravage our families.

No mroe regrets! Start askign God to show you the truth TODAY...before it is too late. There is a saying that says that it is never too late to do what is right. I do not believe that. I believe that it is never too late to be forgiven and go to Heaven as long as you repent. But some things even when you do right are too late to get back. If you left your home when your children were young and you return when they arein their 20s...you will never get back or give them the experience of what it means beign together.

Now, do not condemn yourself if you failed in this area...I am just trying to encourage you to find out the truth today and live a life with no regrets!