Rejection and the Pursuit of Love

Why is rejection so hard for some people? What approaches should some one take to tastefully deal with that rejection? Every one at some point in their lives has been rejected. If it hasn't happened yet, just be patient it will happen. There are many different type of rejection when it comes to Dating. There is the classic "major crush" rejection, first interactions rejection, and last but not least the " loved once upon a time" rejection. Each type is different, but have one main common factor they all can hurt you feelings.

There is a young lady, named Jasmine. She had a crush on this guy named Eric for about a year. Jasmine was not as feminine as a lot of other females. She grew up with three old Brother and not only the baby of the family but the only girl. Eric was friend with one of jasmine's Brothers. Jasmine said she was very nervous about approaching her crush because of the age difference and him being her brother's friend. When she finally worked up the never to approach, he shoot her down. Eric told her that they could only be friends and he only looked at her like a little sister. Jasmine would also add" I was so hurt that day and decided to take my attention off of boys for a while and focus on school." "A Year after I graduated for college, I saw my old crush He ask me out on a date and I rejected him, Pay was great."

This is what some would call Major crush rejection. Although Jasmine was right in how she felt about the rejection. She may not have been entirely right in her later rejection towards Eric. Who is to say Eric did not regret turning down Jasmine and saw a second opportunity to make up for his previous mistake. People always use the geek to sheik technique, which is not always the answer.

One day a girl was walking down the street .she was a very attract young lady. A group of guys were standing in front of a store where they gathered daily. One of the young men yelled across to street to her" Hey girl come here". The young woman ignore the young mans advances and continue walking. The young man not know how to handle the rejection the young lady gave him began yelling derogatory statement at the young woman. This situation is called first interaction rejection.

In this situation the guy was truly wrong for a few reasons. First, no self-respecting woman would answer to so one yelling Hey girl come here. Second, after he disrespecting the young woman she continued walking to her destination, she never once looked back at the young man. He looked, acted and probably felt like a fool. If some one rejects you advances you don't have to disrespect them, you have the other option of being the bigger person.

Last but not least, this story is about a love that once existed. A colleague was dating a guy that lived in another state. She had many trust issues because it was a long distance relationship. For the first 6 months the guy seemed content with the arrangements. The next 6 months became hard for the young became hard for the young lady because she lost her home and a brother all at the same time.

The great thing is she eventually got over her rejection called " love once upon a time". She moved on to meet someone else and eventually married the new flame. She is happier now than she has ever been. It is almost like she was reward or her class and for being a real woman. It would have been easy for her to just become the typical crazy ex-girlfriend. Instead she stood to be the bigger person.

Life is to short and rejection is a part of that life. If some rejections move on, it is not worth making yourself foolish. No one ever said the dating scene would be easy. Trust in your heart to find what it is you need and use your brain to give the knowledge of what is not good for you. Revenge is not always the answer to rejection. The classier approach is always the best one.