Rekindle Your Marriage

Every marriage hits a hard spot or two. There are times when there is no time for intimacy, when the kids are up until midnight, the in-laws are constantly over and the house is a mess. But the fact of the matter is, without intimacy your relationship is merely a business partnership where two people agree to pool money to pay for life, raise new members of society and eventually grow old. How romantic huh?

When I was getting married I had this fantasy of how marriage would be. Our home would be immaculate, my husband would be a romantic, I would never be tired or cranky, and we would never have hard times. Boy how quickly I learned I was wrong! Once you throw kids, work and life into the mix, the honeymoon sure ends quick.

My husband and I made a decision together that we would aim to be intimate with one another 3 times a week. Our number is 3 because he works a graveyard shift the other 4 nights. This works well for our family situation because we do not need to pay for daycare and I can work part time to make a little extra, but it was hell on our marriage for a while.

Some of the things we tried were fruitless. Many of the articles out there on this topic offered no help. And because everyone is different, this one might not help your situation, but at least you are interested in improving you relationship and effort always counts.

There are many things that you can try to improve things. The ones that worked were pulled from some of the advice I received before my wedding. At my bridal shower, like many others I am sure, guests were able to write down a bit of advice for my new journey. Some of it was cheesy, but some of it was worth taking to heart. The best advice I could have ever asked for came from my dear Grandmother. Her card read "Sex is as important as food, without it your marriage will starve!"

Sex is a must! This is the main point of this article. Make it a point to be intimate with your husband or wife. I mean you can schedule time to watch your favorite show, why not TiVo it and spend some one on one time together?

In order to turn around a rocky marriage, much work is involved. However, I believe that one of the first things to change is your sex life. Sit down and discuss what would satisfy each of you and then make a plan. As un-sexy as that sounds, it works! Here are some things that you can try.

Watch porn together. As gross as this sounds, I am sure that your husband will appreciate it. I am not a fan, but I will watch from time to time with my hubby because it makes him happy. I am not talking about the sleazy ones either, you should pick one out together so you are not grossed out and he is still getting excited.

Go on a sex fast and feast. This is where you go for one month without sex, which if you are reading this article you may have already done, and then you have sex every single day for one month straight, no exceptions! Even if it is a quickie in the shower, make the effort. This will help to jump start you sex life because it takes 21 days to make a habit, so after one month you will both be in the habit of having a lot more intimacy with each other.

Buy some new lingerie and make it something your husband will like, white does not count. Men do not like boring nighties or white babydolls. Buy something black and sexy without him knowing, and then surprise him with it one night. You might even like his reaction so much you will buy more!

Try these things in order to help you come up with some more ideas and go from there. When it comes to intimacy, let your imaginations run wild, I know your husband will appreciate it!