Rekindling Back the Romance - Points to Consider

If you have made the decision to get back to your ex, think carefully about the pros and cons. There are lots of things to consider, especially if the one that initiated the break-up before was your ex instead of you. Should you get back together and rekindle the lost love you guys have had back then, or should you just forget about it and move on?

This is a rather complicated situation. I suppose for a long-term relationship, there is a tendency to rekindle back the lost time. But for those really new relationships, the bond might not be too thick there and it is easier to forget. But if the person is worth it, why not make the come-back? Anyway, life is about second chances and about realizing mistakes and about giving others opportunities as well. Should you want to give your ex girlfriend/boyfriend a chance, do take note that they should also honor their promises and not break it ever. Like if they promise not to touch drugs anymore, they should abide by it. And if they promise never to be a serial dater behind your back and to still date other men too, they should make good out of their promises.

Let's turn the other way round. Say you are the one whom tries to rekindle back the romance with your ex. Coaxing her or him and in the hope of building up again your lost love. But in actual fact, you are on a rebound spree. Let me explain for a bit. It can be said that when someone is suffering from a rebound, they tend to either look for a temporary relationship with someone new just to hold on to or try to get back to their ex so that the 'old feel' could be there again. So for the latter, after patching up, realizing that the relationship could not work out anymore and that the feel is not the same or no longer there and is just an illusion or some sort. Therefore, before taking that jump, think carefully on all angles. Don't just do something for the sake of something. Don't do it for old times' sake. Do not be scared to be alone and that means being single.

As for the first part that I've mentioned, say you are the party whom have been offered to patch things up, and you really don't feel like it, it's best to say no. After all, the heart cannot be forced and if the chemistry is no longer there, there's really no use in patching things up, only to lose it again along the way again. But if you feel like you and your partner can work out the issues, and love each other so much to rekindle back the romance, then go all the way for it and make it happen.